Malika
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J was in the bath tonight and when I went in to check on him, there was an overpowering smell of bleach... he had got out of the bath, got the bath cleaner (contains bleach) - my fault for not putting it where he cannot reach it; this has now been remedied - and sprayed it all over the walls and shower glass. He told me later he had wanted to help clean... Anyway, I got cross, kind of for form's sake not because I felt all that cross inside but just because he has to know not to play with this stuff which is not good for him to inhale or get into his eyes, etc. He started crying and then said, "I want another Mummy! I want to see Kenza!" Kenza is the name of his birth mother, which is about all we know about her. A few minutes later, all was forgotten and relations were restored again.
But why, I wonder, does he say this extreme things on so little provocation... I really don't like it, and don't want it to become a habit. It's as if he's playing with relationships in his four year old mind, or doesn't feel fully stable and secure with me? Or maybe it's just the impulsiveness thing - comes out of his mouth without any thought process intervening... We did talk about a bit later and I said I didn't like it when he says these things. Then, as he was going to bed later he was SO sweet... and I thought... honestly four year olds are so very adorable, even if this one is sometimes less than adorable some of the time...
But why, I wonder, does he say this extreme things on so little provocation... I really don't like it, and don't want it to become a habit. It's as if he's playing with relationships in his four year old mind, or doesn't feel fully stable and secure with me? Or maybe it's just the impulsiveness thing - comes out of his mouth without any thought process intervening... We did talk about a bit later and I said I didn't like it when he says these things. Then, as he was going to bed later he was SO sweet... and I thought... honestly four year olds are so very adorable, even if this one is sometimes less than adorable some of the time...