It's been three weeks since my surgery and not a word from difficult child or his girlfriend. I'm 90% sure he knows about it because dex knows, and he speaks to him. He's cut me out of his life again for no apparent reason. He "needs space." From what?! I've looked back over the past year to try and figure out what happened. After we had initially reconnected again, he and girlfriend were coming from NJ to spend the weekend at least twice a month. They always enjoyed themselves, we live in Amish country and they live in an inner city area of NJ, so this was a big deal to them. They were here for Thanksgiving, Easter, and met us at my daughter's house in NJ on Christmas. Each time everything went very well. Then little by little they stopped coming out. Coincidentially the visits slowed down right after I totaled my Jeep Wrangler. difficult child loved driving it with the roof and doors off. Do I want to believe he is so juvenile that driving that Jeep was a big reason he was coming here? I don't want to, but honestly I do. Also, he and his sister had a fight and haven't spoken in almost a year. I refuse to take sides, I think they're both behaving like idiots. It seems like he's angry I won't side with him against his sister. Too bad. Then it started taking him days to return my calls and finally he didn't return them at all. When I did finally get in touch with him was when he had the huge meltdown and screamed at me to lose his number. I could have handled the situation better. I got very upset and started crying. It's just that I had finally managed to have some kind of a relationship with him after 5 years of not seeing or hearing from him. I should know better but you'd think the possibility his mother might have bone cancer would have made him want to call me. I'm so sick of his selfishness.