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Gone
Guest
We used to be close when she was well 
Our relationship disintegrated alongside her alcohol dependency
My Grandson is stuck in the middle of this
In foster care
Am heart broken but difficult child does not understand my heart break at all and gets annoyed if I mention any sort of feeling , saying I am being negative and getting her down as it seems she does not want to deal with reality , just ''everything is going to be alright soon'' as she plans to remove her son from foster care as it is a 'voluntary' placement but he is a looked after child by social services currently
I don't know what is going to happen , all I know is there is friction , hostility , resentment and mistrust between my difficult child and me and YET if she removes him from foster care and it is even ALLOWED I will need to be closely involved with her and watch her like a hawk , all the while with friction and hostility between us!
Not sure how to do it , detach and yet WATCH her in case she drinks again while my GS is in her care
Have to find some way in all this as detachment helps but I feel I have a duty to watch her as closely as possible for my GS's sake which means some sort of involvement even though uncomfortable for BOTH of us
Just wish there was a magic wand and she was well again with everything back to normal but that is not going to happen in an instant and am on a journey I HATE but just have to deal with my own stuff along the way and calmly ensure my GS is safe at all times!

Our relationship disintegrated alongside her alcohol dependency
My Grandson is stuck in the middle of this
In foster care
Am heart broken but difficult child does not understand my heart break at all and gets annoyed if I mention any sort of feeling , saying I am being negative and getting her down as it seems she does not want to deal with reality , just ''everything is going to be alright soon'' as she plans to remove her son from foster care as it is a 'voluntary' placement but he is a looked after child by social services currently
I don't know what is going to happen , all I know is there is friction , hostility , resentment and mistrust between my difficult child and me and YET if she removes him from foster care and it is even ALLOWED I will need to be closely involved with her and watch her like a hawk , all the while with friction and hostility between us!
Not sure how to do it , detach and yet WATCH her in case she drinks again while my GS is in her care
Have to find some way in all this as detachment helps but I feel I have a duty to watch her as closely as possible for my GS's sake which means some sort of involvement even though uncomfortable for BOTH of us
Just wish there was a magic wand and she was well again with everything back to normal but that is not going to happen in an instant and am on a journey I HATE but just have to deal with my own stuff along the way and calmly ensure my GS is safe at all times!