Well, in preparation for our son's return home from his group home in about six weeks, his therapist called to do a telephone session, the first we've had. Unfortunately, things didn't go very well after just a few minutes into the call when the therapist brought up the fact that there had been a major breech of trust in our family that would have to be repaired. I agreed with him that our son would have to earn our trust back. I attempted to explain to him that, for example, regarding the stealing issue (something he did on a couple of occasions when he was heavily using pot), we certainly believe that, while he doesn't INTEND to steal from us, we would need some time to see whether he's going to walk the walk in addition to talking the talk--something that has always been a problem for him. I thought that this would be understood, but my son took the comment very badly and responded that he didn't even want to come home if he wasn't going to be trusted. At that point, the therapist commented that my son was approaching the issue with a "black-and-white" mentality, and that there were many variations of black and white in this and other issues. Instead of accepting that and leaving it there, my son made the comment that that was how he saw the issue and that it was "my way or the highway." Now, I know my son is the biggest blusterer in the world when upset, so I completely ignored that comment. However, the therapist didn't and told me that, based on my son's attitude, he felt we should seriously consider NOT allowing him to return home. (This has NEVER been our intention--we want our son home with us, and we'll work through whatever happens thereafter as a family until and if we are unable to continue doing so). Well, that comment did it for my son, and any possible chance of a productive session was gone. He said that his old therapist (unfortunately, he has had four different therapists in four months, and he was very attached to the previous one)would have NEVER made such a comment to me when he didn't know any of us and that he would have tried to help us all reach a mutually-satisfactory solution. He said that he'd talk to his dad and me in private, but he would not do so with this particular therapist. I'm feeling very upset and apprehensive about this session. I somewhat agree with my son that the therapist should not have made the comment he did based on one sentence from a frustrated kid, and it certainly didn't help any of us in terms of "therapy." As such, I can understand my son's refusal to attend more sessions. However, I understand that these sessions are one of the required steps in the program that precedes his release, and I'm very worried that what happened today and what might happen in the future with this particular therapist is going to negatively affect my son's release from the program and final release from custody when he goes before the judge. I'm not sure what to do about this, if anything, and/or whether we have any say-so to begin with.