If you are and have been dealing with a family member suffering from alcoholism/drug abuse, you become sick from the stress of it all - the using/acting out/yelling/court stuff/crying/homelessness/hospitalizations/jail-time - it is all unbelievable - and yet, most of us go on - work, try to maintain some semblance of sanity - but it is hard. Many of us suffer from anxiety/depression - live in fear for the next disaster - jump when the phone rings - can't get to sleep - don't feel whole or safe. Just for today: Focus on your needs - your health - your well-being. Get a massage, a mani-pedi, work in the garden, shut the phone off . . . Tomorrow think about how it is that one person has been allowed to control YOUR well-being - that is not "right" - yet we allow that out of LOVE - when they are clean and sober, we become HOPEFUL . . . it's normal human behavior to want your family members to be safe and okay and to be upset when they are not . . . Focus on YOU today. Relax. All is well for this moment. If you have tips or wisdom to share about maintaining your peace, health, and wholeness, please do!