Food Yes, No Money

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by It'sbeentoolong, Nov 23, 2017.

  1. Son called and wanted to come home and shower. Translation: let me come home and lay around and then get money from you for drugs and alcohol.

    I offered to bring him food because I know he hasn't eaten. But he declined the food and wanted ten dollars. Guess that's enough to get take the edge off. I said no, hung up, and turned off my phone.

    In the past, I would have felt so bad because it's Thanksgiving and he has no food. Well, I offered food and now it's Happy Thanksgiving to ME.
     
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  2. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    IBTL
    Excellent boundary setting. It only race for you but also peace of mind that you are not contributing to his sickness.
     
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  3. Lost in sadness

    Lost in sadness Active Member

    Well done for sticking to your boundaries! I am so sorry it was on Thanksgiving, it must have been so painful for you. I hope you found some joy in your day with other people that love and value you! Xx
     
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  4. pasajes4

    pasajes4 Well-Known Member

    Must be the season. My son syarted texting and calling while I was out for dinner. He wanted 10 dollars. He did not ask for food. I did not answer the calls nor did I respond to his text messages. The messages became more thteatning and menacing. I would like to say it did not bother me.

    IBTL, Good for you for sticking to upholding your boundaries. It still sucks rocks.
     
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  5. Littleboylost

    Littleboylost On the road unwanted to travel

    Well done Pasa and yes it does suck rocks.