Hi all....I am new here and I am at my wits end so I am searching for some hellp and suggestions and support. I am the divorced mom of 3 boys. My 15 year old has some issues with controlling his anger but for the most part does a good job. My 12 year old has been diagnosed ADD/ADHD, PTSD, ASPERGERS, ODD. And my 9 year old is for the most part the angel. My 12 year old is in therapy for the issues he has, he was placed as a child in need of care a few years ago for 9 months. He did well came home and did well for about 6 months. He then started on his previous behaviors of stealing, eating me out of house and home, not listening and doing as he pleased. I am in a relationship with a man who does not get along with my 12 year old. I have lived in the country for the past 2 years limiting the opportunities of my 12 year old stealing from others. He had a problem with this in school which led him to a court case and probation. I recently moved back to town and my son has shown up at my house with cell phones, ipods, and other things. Of course when questioned i get lies. The other night he became very angry and kicked me. He had a total blow up cussing at my boyfriend, telling everyone that until he got his way we would all suffer and he would make everyones life miserable. He has and continues to pick the skin from his feet, he picks at sores not allowing them to heal. I spoke with his therapist and had her evaluate him, she did not st that time find it necessary to have him placed for inpatient treatment. His attitude towards me and his brothers has not changed, last night he was angry with me because i would not let him have my cell phone to call people. He procedded to kick and hit the wall and bang his head, when we ignored that he started to throw things at his brothers. when my oldest one took the things he was throwing, my 12 year old locked himself in my oldest ones room and started to go through his things. He says that because he has had his phone taken away that is why he has been taking others things. I am at my wits end with him. I am at the point I am about to have a nervous breakdown and dont know what to do....his medications are concerta, depakote, trazadone and abilify, we were going to take him off the depakota and try topamax but that made things worse. He is a big boy ...he just turned 12 last month is 6 foot tall and weighs 232 pounds so i physically cannot control him. Suggestions?