klmno
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about child support hearing and my mother's contact.
I found out that the support hearing is not assigned to the same judge because it's not criminal so it goes to the first available judge. The GAL probably won't be there.
As far as my mom contacting difficult child- that news isn't so good. The receptionist passes on any call regarding a kid to the kid's cm- which of course, automatically let's a person know that the kid is in there. The cm won't stop contact without a court order or strong encouragement from the parole officer. They don't care what the parent wants or asks. So, here again, we are left with the PO in charge of our lives and my parental rights.
The PO was supposed to call me 2 weeks ago to set up a required appointment for this month but I haven't heard from him so I put a call into him. My concern is that he will discuss this with difficult child's previous probation officer who works 2 doors down from his office and who never got the point about why contact with family needed to be monitored or that all difficult child's issues were not my fault. (The parole officer has just been involved the past few months and is not aware of all that I brought out in court last year about my family.) I asked the CM if the parole officer could discuss this with the judge himself without me having to go try to get a court order and she said probably, if he wanted to. I guess the time to see how this PO is really going to be is coming soon.
I really do not see why none of these people seem to be able to take a parent's word for something like this instead of treating us like we were delinquents with no credibility who could never be trusted to make a good decision regarding what's in the best interest of the child. The people in the system always act like the parent doesn't do enough to keep the kid protected and out of trouble, yet they are the very ones who treat the kid like everything is his decision and they have nothing to do with it. Until he gets into a mess again- then they somehow turn that back on the parent. But, we'll see which side the PO is going to take on this- and if the judge stays consistent with wanting contact with my family monitored.
Really, how the he** would the PO know what contact is good or bad for my son's mental state? The PO's never even want involved in mental health issues. Their idea of mental health treatment is a rewards/consequences contract.
I found out that the support hearing is not assigned to the same judge because it's not criminal so it goes to the first available judge. The GAL probably won't be there.
As far as my mom contacting difficult child- that news isn't so good. The receptionist passes on any call regarding a kid to the kid's cm- which of course, automatically let's a person know that the kid is in there. The cm won't stop contact without a court order or strong encouragement from the parole officer. They don't care what the parent wants or asks. So, here again, we are left with the PO in charge of our lives and my parental rights.
The PO was supposed to call me 2 weeks ago to set up a required appointment for this month but I haven't heard from him so I put a call into him. My concern is that he will discuss this with difficult child's previous probation officer who works 2 doors down from his office and who never got the point about why contact with family needed to be monitored or that all difficult child's issues were not my fault. (The parole officer has just been involved the past few months and is not aware of all that I brought out in court last year about my family.) I asked the CM if the parole officer could discuss this with the judge himself without me having to go try to get a court order and she said probably, if he wanted to. I guess the time to see how this PO is really going to be is coming soon.
I really do not see why none of these people seem to be able to take a parent's word for something like this instead of treating us like we were delinquents with no credibility who could never be trusted to make a good decision regarding what's in the best interest of the child. The people in the system always act like the parent doesn't do enough to keep the kid protected and out of trouble, yet they are the very ones who treat the kid like everything is his decision and they have nothing to do with it. Until he gets into a mess again- then they somehow turn that back on the parent. But, we'll see which side the PO is going to take on this- and if the judge stays consistent with wanting contact with my family monitored.
Really, how the he** would the PO know what contact is good or bad for my son's mental state? The PO's never even want involved in mental health issues. Their idea of mental health treatment is a rewards/consequences contract.
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