elizabrary
Well-Known Member
I know we're all shocked, but IG (who Kat met on the internet 6 months ago, moved in with 2 weeks later and got engaged) dumped Kat. She was in town visiting before they moved to a city an hour away. He moved their stuff there, then dumped her. She is here with no job, no place to live, no stuff, no money and a broken down car. So her idea was since he is such a great guy he told her she could live (with KK) in the other bedroom until she found a job and got on her feet. So she would be in a strange city where she knows nobody with no job and her 1-year-old baby living with her ex. Yes, that's the best idea ever. She said at least she would have a roof over her head so she wouldn't lose KK.
She is currently staying at her friend's who is moving in a couple of weeks to new house and there is no room for Kat. I told her she could move back in here but first we would sit down and agree to a set of rules, an amount she would pay each month and a plan for getting her on her feet. I would really rather not have her here, but I'm worried sick about the baby. So then she calls me tonight with this story of how IG told her if she could get a car to drive up there tomorrow she could get some of her and KK's stuff and he would pay for gas for her to get back. I think it's a big lie for her to get up there to try and get him back. When I called her out on it, told her she was a grown up and created the situation so she could figure it out, but could not use my car she denied it and got off the phone. I called her back and told her no manipulative behavior if she was going to move in here. She denied it and when I called her out on it again she hung up on me.
Yes, I know the intelligent thing to do is not let her move in, but I'm so worried about the baby. Objective advice from anyone is welcome, but I especially need a grandparent's opinion. Thanks guys, I'm really, really stressed at this point.
She is currently staying at her friend's who is moving in a couple of weeks to new house and there is no room for Kat. I told her she could move back in here but first we would sit down and agree to a set of rules, an amount she would pay each month and a plan for getting her on her feet. I would really rather not have her here, but I'm worried sick about the baby. So then she calls me tonight with this story of how IG told her if she could get a car to drive up there tomorrow she could get some of her and KK's stuff and he would pay for gas for her to get back. I think it's a big lie for her to get up there to try and get him back. When I called her out on it, told her she was a grown up and created the situation so she could figure it out, but could not use my car she denied it and got off the phone. I called her back and told her no manipulative behavior if she was going to move in here. She denied it and when I called her out on it again she hung up on me.
Yes, I know the intelligent thing to do is not let her move in, but I'm so worried about the baby. Objective advice from anyone is welcome, but I especially need a grandparent's opinion. Thanks guys, I'm really, really stressed at this point.