Hello to all. My first post so I hope I do ok. My 3 year old grandson has what I have only discovered tonight - the symptoms of ODD. I spent the day with him and am so sad and exhausted. We actually fought all day. The only good moments were when we he was not given any rules to obey. Then the NO!, tears, temper, folded arms and angry looks. He told his Dad, my son, that he doesn't want to come back to my house because I am mean. The whole issue is that he is a terror at his house too and seems to place blame on anyone but himself. His brother 6, has been the whipping post for all the trouble at home. His first year in nursery school was spent hitting, biting and sitting in time out. I do not think this is a phase as his parent do and I am always concerned about his future. His other Grandmother seems to believe he needs discipline but no amount seems to change him. I taught preschool and can be very objective and not personnaly hurt by these attacks, but I need to be able to reach his parents and at least begin to investigate some reason for his sad little life. Thanks for listening!