I called difficult child's guitar teacher last wk to tell him that difficult child would definitely be in class this Thurs. Now I have to eat crow. (by the way, I can see why difficult child doesn't like his teacher; he's a droll stick-in-the-mud. Still, difficult child has to learn with-diff personality types.) We were arguing and escalating this a.m. about whether difficult child would go to guitar class today and he insisted he could do it by himself. Right. I just finished The Manipulative Child, and you're supposed to stop, pause and redirect. I was getting really peeved with-difficult child thinking he can do anything with-o classes or lessons and yelled, "FINE. PROVE IT!" (So much for pausing, LOL! But I got the redirect part down pat. ) He immediately grabbed his guitar and showed me the frets and a few notes. (He can't do chords yet.) He is SO peaceful when he plays. He was like a completely diff person. I could have sat there all day. difficult child was actually in tears because he feared having to play his notes in front of 3 other kids. Talk about high anxiety. I remembered that my mom let me drop out of voice lessons (after she had pd for them) because the teacher wasn't really a teacher--just had me sing scales all day with-no input whatsoever, nothing about breathing or relaxing or projecting--it was clearly extra income to supplement her own vocal performances. So remembering that, and seeing how stressed out he was, I decided to let difficult child off the hook. It really bothers me that we went to such lengths to get that guitar, but if he's crying about it, it's just not worth it. I made a unilateral decision to let difficult child drop out of guitar. I hope husband agrees tonight when I tell him. We will get private lessons for difficult child at some point. Sigh.