So, quick catch-up, I'm estranged from my she-spawn. She's 19, she's Borderline (BPD) and Histrionic Personality Disorder (diagnosed but in denial and untreated), she has been nothing but a major trial since the moment of birth, culminating in my making her go live with her father when she was 16, in order to remove her from this town and get her away from her meth-head boyfriend (since then killed in a meth-induced car crash) and all her druggie "homies". I am 99.99% sure that she had everything to do with the burglary of my home a couple weeks ago. All of my good jewelry (wedding rings, diamond pendant, grandmother's pearls, miscellaneous jewelry that was my mother's) was stolen as well as my husband's digital camera. Together valued at well over $5000. We filed a police report and the police know that she did it, and told her that they know, but have (as of yet) no way to prove it. She is definitely on their radar and apparently has been for awhile because of the parties they throw. Husband was downtown today walking back to work from a coffee break and she-spawn's husband (a punk kid who just turned 21) drives by and starts yelling "Mother****ker!" and other crap at him. Then he drives around the corner so he can do it again! The last time my husband saw this little punk was a few months ago when he took 8 bags of groceries over to them because she-spawn called her father crying that they were "starving" to death and he called me and basically begged us to help them out. My husband is filing a harassment charge tomorrow. My son wants to come down (he lives about an hour away) and beat the tar out of him. Her father, my ex, is in denial but he knows damn well she is a liar and thief and has been all her life. His response when I told him what had happened was "Don't ruin your daughter's life." I haven't spoken to him since then. I just wish she (and her punk spouse) would disappear off the face of the earth. I hate the person she is. And I feel so guilty because I can not dredge up a single feeling of love for her, only extreme dislike and animosity. I don't want to ever speak to or see her again, and I wish I could just magically wipe her completely from my head. She is not my "difficult child". She is my punishment for everything I ever did bad in my life.