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toughlovin
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Hi all,
Well my son was discharged from the hospital up here... an awful place really. I picked him up and drove him to the airport and sent him off to this other rehab. He seemed ok when he left, this was his decision which was all good. So I waited last night to hear that he got there ok. He knew going in that he would not be able to have his cell phone but he could have his music.
So he called last night. What I was hoping for was a phone call that would set my mind at ease. Instead he called becuase they took his ipod because it can access the internet. He was very upset and really what can I do? I asked him what could i do? In our conversation I said so they have wifi?
At which point in thinking about it he realized that they should have a password on the wifi so he should not be able to access the internet... and I could hear him slow down, become more reasonable and him saying I am going to go ask them. I had been telling him he needed to talk to them today.
So he was off Occupational Therapist (OT) do that and hung up. Leaving me up in the air and wondering.
I keep telling myself this is his journey and I need to let him have it, but darn it it is hard to do that when he keeps asking me to get on the train!!!
So I am still feeling anxious about it all.... but at least I know he arrived safely. Reality is we have an old ipod here we could load with his music and send him if that solves the issue. I am resisting however juts doing that and waiting until I hear more from him.... I know I can't just go and solve everything that part of his journey is coming up with solutions.
It is so hard to just sit back and wait.
What I am starting to see though is that in our new mode of interacting, instead of arguing with him but rather just talking things through, that i help him think things through and come down from his initial reactive reaction. He does overreact, usually with anger, and then will do really stupid impulsive things. Part of what he needs to learn is how to get down from that place and react in a reasonable way. I am hoping that happened last night but now I have no idea.
And he no longer has his phone.... so who knows. I don't do well with the not knowing.
TL
Well my son was discharged from the hospital up here... an awful place really. I picked him up and drove him to the airport and sent him off to this other rehab. He seemed ok when he left, this was his decision which was all good. So I waited last night to hear that he got there ok. He knew going in that he would not be able to have his cell phone but he could have his music.
So he called last night. What I was hoping for was a phone call that would set my mind at ease. Instead he called becuase they took his ipod because it can access the internet. He was very upset and really what can I do? I asked him what could i do? In our conversation I said so they have wifi?
At which point in thinking about it he realized that they should have a password on the wifi so he should not be able to access the internet... and I could hear him slow down, become more reasonable and him saying I am going to go ask them. I had been telling him he needed to talk to them today.
So he was off Occupational Therapist (OT) do that and hung up. Leaving me up in the air and wondering.
I keep telling myself this is his journey and I need to let him have it, but darn it it is hard to do that when he keeps asking me to get on the train!!!
So I am still feeling anxious about it all.... but at least I know he arrived safely. Reality is we have an old ipod here we could load with his music and send him if that solves the issue. I am resisting however juts doing that and waiting until I hear more from him.... I know I can't just go and solve everything that part of his journey is coming up with solutions.
It is so hard to just sit back and wait.
What I am starting to see though is that in our new mode of interacting, instead of arguing with him but rather just talking things through, that i help him think things through and come down from his initial reactive reaction. He does overreact, usually with anger, and then will do really stupid impulsive things. Part of what he needs to learn is how to get down from that place and react in a reasonable way. I am hoping that happened last night but now I have no idea.
And he no longer has his phone.... so who knows. I don't do well with the not knowing.
TL