Nichole has this guy that really likes her. No, not the great guy who's liked her from JR High, but another one. I'm cringing inside. This guy is from the difficult child family of the county, maybe the entire state. The epitome of poor white trash, hillbilly, you name it. Any image those two stereotypes promote is right on the money with this family. Nichole met this guy because her best friend N has been dating his brother for the past couple of years. Now this is the jerk that currently has N and Nichole not hanging out together cuz he's a bum, drug addict, and abuser (and those are his good qualities). Nichole calls me from boyfriend's house to tell me this B guy is supposed to call. She was going somewhere with him this evening, but boyfriend decided he wanted to take her somewhere. *cringe* (and thank God boyfriend is taking her somewhere) Ok. So I probably should've kept my mouth shut. But I couldn't. You'd have to know this family. So I asked her if she'd lost her mind. She went on to explain how this B dude isn't at all like the rest of his family, has a job and is going to college, is so nice, ect. I calmly reminded her of his family. She didn't want to hear it. "You don't know how nice it is Mom to have someone like you like that." This from the girl who had boys fighting over her in jr high and hs. (borderline statement I think) Now I'm not one to judge a person based on their family. Honestly. Or I'd be the pot calling the kettle black. lol (mine's not so hot either, but I turned out ok) But even if this guy is trying to make good, Nichole cannot begin to understand the amount of extra baggage he's carrying just due to his childhood amoung this family alone. At best he's a difficult child who is trying hard to better himself. But I'm having a hard time swallowing it. Current boyfriend may be an immature @ss, jerk, control freak. But he's a saint compared to the potential in this B guy. Me thinks we'll be having a talk where Mom points out to her that there are plenty of other guys just biding their time til she wises up to boyfriend. Guys who don't come from a family background like that, with all that extra baggage. I can think of two or three off the top of my head. How can her sense of self worth be so far down the toilet? It just doesn't make sense.