Oh My!! I'm at the end of my rope with this child!!! My husband and I have 5 children, a 23 year old son, 18 yr old daughter, 15 yr old daughter and boy/girl twins that are 10. Our 10 yr old daughter just does not follow directions at all! The school has the same issues with her as well and now they are talking about placing her in a special class with only 8 other children. In their opinion, she is defiant, sneaky and mischievous! I have had her tested for ADD & ADHD with the result being she is not ADD and had the same opinion as the schools. I have read several books on twins and some of the twin to twin issues they can have. My daughter is left handed and my son is right handed and according to the books this means with her being left handed, she uses the right side of her brain and a person that uses their right hand uses the left side of the brain. Everyone of us are right handed but her, I'm not sure if this has anything to do with the issues, however I have been thinking maybe this has something to do with the fact that we are having difficulties understanding her and helping her.... She really has the sweetest heart and is so very loving when she wants to be, but lord have mercy....... when she does not want to do something she is not doing it and the way she goes about it is very sneaky.... for instance... she was asked to clean up a few dishes, she say's with a smile sure mom, goes over to the sink, fills the sink with soapy water, washed 2 or 3 pieces of silverware and starts to take the remainder of the dishes and puts them away in the cupboards where they go with out even washing them... when I caught her she looked completely dumbfounded that she had even done anything wrong... I tried to explain what I seen her do and she say's "maybe they where clean mom" I said, "Khameron, there is dog hair in the bowl, dog food stuck on the bowl and how could it be clean if you never even put it in the water?" she says to me "I DON'Y KNOW" I hate this... every time we ask her why, how, what, when she did something, weather it e when the school calls or we catch her she say's "I DON'T KNOW" Im STARTING TO THINK MAYBE SHE REALLY HAS SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER...... PROBLEM IS... everyone else, Dr., school, relatives, friends etc. says she is just sneaky, evil and has us wrapped...... I have tried the behavior charts, rewards, taking things away.... you name it we tried it!!! Any advice is GREATLY APPRECIATED AND I CAN ASSURE YOU I WILL FOR SURE GO TO THE END OF THE WORLD TO HELP HER!!!!!