I am a 34yr old pediatric RN and mother of 3 kids, a 8yr old daughter, 5 1/2 yr son, and a 1yr old daughter. My son has always been more physical and "high maintenance than the girls but I just assumed it was boy. Well things have really boiled over lately. In the last 6mos, we had to remove him from kindergarten due to stealing insignificant stuff, HUGE temper tantrums of kicking, hitting, and screaming like a baby. And recently had our babysitter of 8yrs state that she cannot watch him anymore after he kicked, punched and threw a flashlight at her head. This child fights about stupid stuff. Yesterday he loved spaghetti but today he hates it, throws it at me and refuses to eat. When placed in his room he kicks the door, screams, and throws things at the door and walls and when that doesn't work he opens the door and throws things at the baby and myself. We cannot leave him alone with the baby as he taunts her by taking toys, moving food out of her reach and today he went as far as standing over her with his face in hers and screamed at the top of his lungs to wake her because he was mad he lost hot chocolate for continuously kicking the car seats and doors on the ride home. My husband is a firefighter and can be gone for 3days straight which is costing our marriage because after 3 days of constant power struggles and the continuous mental bashing my son does I begin to get angry and resent my husband for not having to deal with it and tuning out for 3days. I truly feel he can't wait to go to work. I work 20hrs a week. My son has been seeing a psychologist for 6 mos and he has tested him so far no ADHD or ADD and above average intelligence but obvious ODD. We are extremely consistent parents who ALWAYs follow through on punishment BUT this kid could care less. You take away his favorite toy he doesn't care, we made him unwrap some christmas presents that he really wanted and donate them to the poor ---DIDN"T CARE!! I am at an absolute loss and my marriage is on the brink, my 8yr old sobs due to my sons harsh words to her and us...... H E L P!!! any advise would be great. (PS I was also a police officer for over 10 yrs) So I am no pushover and have a lot of patience but he has worn me out.