SearchingForRainbows
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I grew up in a very dysfunctional household. Looking back, I believe my mother, although never diagnosed, is bipolar. I also think my sister is bipolar as well. My father enabled my mother and sister to remain dependent on him for everything!!! He refused to believe that they needed professional help. He just kept explaining away their bad behaviors, poor judgement, etc...
Anyway, I left home as soon as I could!!! I managed to maintain a distant relationship with my mother for the sake of my father. When I had children, I made it a point to let them know their grandchildren.
I found out in November that my father did something so horrible that it has taken me months to accept the fact he did this even though I have proof. As a result, I need to cut off all ties with my parents permanently. The relationship is just too toxic.
easy child understands why she will no longer be seeing her grandparents. She never was close to either one of them. difficult child 1 doesn't care. He never got along with them either. difficult child 2 idolizes my mother. He thinks she is the absolute best person in the world!!!
I don't know how to explain to difficult child 2 that he can't see her anymore. I know he has overheard husband and I talking. I'm sure he has heard more than I would like him to know! However, I feel I need to tell him something. Somebody, please help!!! Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. WFEN
Anyway, I left home as soon as I could!!! I managed to maintain a distant relationship with my mother for the sake of my father. When I had children, I made it a point to let them know their grandchildren.
I found out in November that my father did something so horrible that it has taken me months to accept the fact he did this even though I have proof. As a result, I need to cut off all ties with my parents permanently. The relationship is just too toxic.
easy child understands why she will no longer be seeing her grandparents. She never was close to either one of them. difficult child 1 doesn't care. He never got along with them either. difficult child 2 idolizes my mother. He thinks she is the absolute best person in the world!!!
I don't know how to explain to difficult child 2 that he can't see her anymore. I know he has overheard husband and I talking. I'm sure he has heard more than I would like him to know! However, I feel I need to tell him something. Somebody, please help!!! Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. WFEN