Recently, we have been trying something new with Missy. We just painted her room(very soft lavender), decluttered and added soft textural things. We will eventually put a tv in, but she has a radio/cd player. The past few times she has raged, I've talked her into going upstairs with me, into her newly decorated room. (of course this is after the full raging is just about over) I've put calming music on, rubbed her back. Then when I feel I can leave the room, I'll get a cool wet wash cloth to put on her head, a glass of water for her and some oatmeal lotion and rub her down with the lotion. Eventually, she settles down. Today, I talked her into taking a nap (thank G-d!). What works for your difficult child?