In one of difficult child's many tirades yesterday, he finally said that he doesn't know how to be a grown up and he is scared that he won't ever know how. So how do you think you could explain adulthood to someone who is lacking the subtlety of language and misses non verbal language? For most of us, it's a gradual assumption of responsibility and independence. It's a modeling of behavior. I think it is a natural drive to be an adult. difficult child is missing most of this. Any suggestions of how to get a kid in an adult body to grasp the concept and learn how to be an adult in a concrete, step by step set of directions?