Or in this case an almost adult? Joy is freaking out, as expected, after I told him about my bone tumor. When it first was found I only told husband, and even to him after thinking it through by myself for a bit. Didn't want to tell the kids before I had information about if it was cancer or benign. Now that it is almost sure it is benign I was still planning waiting for close to operation date before telling to avoid kids getting anxious. But like so often, difficult child ruined that plan. His season is over and he is back home for few weeks or months. And it is simply impossible to keep that kind of secrets from him. He probably sniffed that something was wrong at the moment he opened the front door (has always been like that for some strange reason. Joy with his excellent social skills can be totally clueless about things like that, and difficult child with his very limited social skills somehow always knows and reacts to smallest differences in emotional atmosphere at home.) After giving difficult child info, figures and relevant articles he copes okay, but Joy isn't that easy. He wants and needs reassurance I can't give him. It is extremely likely I will be okay. In fact even the worst case scenario would likely be a loss of the leg. While it first looked worse and cancer scare was legit, after further examination it is clear it is now cancer but type of tumors that are seldom malign and mine doesn't show any signs of being malign and is anyway tiny. I have told this to Joy again and again, but that doesn't seem to help him much. He is like a lost puppy twirling at my feet and making it almost impossible not to stumble on him. And to be honest, husband is almost as bad. And when I get irritated with them and shoo them away, they get anxious, turn around and bite what ever comes first onto their way, which is usually difficult child.Which of course makes everyone's life so very fun in our house. Operating day will likely be at least month from now, could be two and only after that anything absolute can be said. How an earth I stay sane till that if Joy (and husband) keep doing what they are doing? I'm not sure even removing difficult child from the picture would help, they would just find something else to dismount their frustration onto.