Oh boy. Like many people here, I struggle with a soon to be 18 year old bipolar daughter who is in denial. I have owned her illness but she has not. I have tried multiple doctors, theripists and energy healers. Virtually no progress and it wasn't better on medications with the horrible side effects. Her father left the home. He could not deal with the violent outbursts without himself escalating in anger. I was literal caught in the middle. He has been out of the home for a year and still there is no peace. Police are constantly being called to my house because of fits. She has been hospitalized, sent to "wilderness" camp and has been arrested. No change. She graduated high school,barely, and says she wants to work but really does nothing to get a job. My house has broken windows and holes in walls. It sucks, she knows it sucks. When she calms she is sweet and loving but when she doesn't get what she wants she starts to cycle. This week things with her younger sister turned violent. Her younger sister purposefully antagonized to set her off. She later explained she did this because she just wants it over. I have not been a good parent to her because I was always working on her sister So here I am. I know I am enabling her. She is better not around me because I trigger her and even if I don't trigger her, she expects me to help her- because I am the the mom I have been up all night. I know I have to think of the 16 year old sister. I feel I should leave the house, let the father handle the 16 year old and literally move away. My 18 year old needs to figure it out. I will pay her rent for year. My heart is Broken. I can't do this anymore. She needs help and doesn't want it but blames all her problems on me and the fact I sent her away and I put her on medications. She doesn't see that her actions had any role. She manipulates my emotions. I could not find any state agency to help. Any advice? If I save my self and other daughter, what am I condemning my mentally ill daughter to. The is no family and she and father are toxic together.