Hi everyone, This is my first time posting. I have a teenage son who is 17 years old and it seems like every other day there is something going on with him. Last year I divorced his father and my son and I moved. That's when the trouble began. He was smoking pot, drinking, partying all night. He failed every single subject in school, even gym! The principal caught on to his drug use and ordered him a drug test and he failed and got suspended. He had to go in a take another test and he knew as well as I did that he would fail for pot so instead of just letting him get kicked out of school, I moved to a new town and enrolled him with a clean slate in a new school. He is a senior this year and he only needs to take two online classes including his current academics to graduate. He swore up and down to me that he was going to focus on school and make sure he does good. I obviously wanted him to succeed in graduating this year and I didn't want to seem like I "failed" as a parent if he didn't graduate. Well, here we are only less than two months into the school year and his grades are bad, skipping school, not going at all and above other things I might get kicked out of my apartment. When we first moved in, he decided to have his friends over when I was at work and was blasting the radio and throwing cig butts out of the window and the lady below me complained - now, just today, I got a call at work from the landlord saying that the music was blasting and cig butts were all over the lawn. He is supposed to be in school. She said that if it happens again she calling an attorney to evict us. I think he my son has always been a little depressed. He lacks motivation. He doesn't care about anything. He wears the same clothes over and over again without washing them, he doesn't take a shower, he could care less about getting his license. I feel like when I was his age that's all I cared about were nice clothes and to I couldn't wait to drive. All he wants to do is hang out with his scum bag friends and get high. I have been thinking about giving him an ultimatum - he turns 18 in a month. I will kick him out of my house. I need to be tough on him because I feel like I always covered up for him his whole life and now it is biting me in the butt. I want him to go into a program but he doesn't want to go and I can't force him. Under state law anyone who is 14 and older can decide for themselves on going into a treatment facility. I'm sorry for the long book but I have no one to talk to and I am at my wits end. I just really want him to be happy and succeed.