This is the most support and understanding that I have ever had. I can't even begin to thank all of you.
My husband has been reported for his violence by his own admission to the in home therapists. However, due to lack of lasting proof, they did not proceed with an investigation. The therapists informed him of this and he told them that it's because of the child protection laws that this world has gone to hell.
He was OK for a few weeks (as per usual) and then he was back at his own raging at all of us. He has shown his colors in front of other people which I will bring in to court to testify.
I have pictures of the wounds that have been inflicted on my son in, what my husband claims, as self defense. He admitted to one of the incidents again to a friend of mine on Sunday. Guess he's cooking his own goose.
I have located a house and will be proceeding lawfully with a lawyer requesting no access.
I believe that the psychiatrist diagnosed my son with bipolar because it is prevalent on my husbands side. Both parents and all brothers and sisters are on Lexipro or some derivitive of it. His aunt committed suicide from post partum psychosis. His aunt was a twin of his mother. There are serious seperation anxiety issues in my husband. He is unable to differentiate our family from his parents. He is constantly out there. Can't go a day without being there.
His father has the most incredible rage that I have ever seen and the parents spent many years screaming at one another. They had 3 children die. 2 of them died 3 months apart and the older siblings, including my husband, were the pall bearers. The first time, my husband was only 6 years old.
His brother was recently released from rehab. He is an alcoholic and almost killed himself after his wife left him and took the kids with her. They are working on it.
My husband is turning in to a control freak. I am only to leave the house if I am taking the kids to school or picking them up. I am not allowed to sing in the church choir because I am not getting paid for it. While he us at work, I am to be working as hard at home as he is and supper is to be on the table when he arrives. When I was working, I was to have all of this dine and still go to work at night while he took the kids to his parents house.
Over Christmas, my oldest daughter came home. My husband referred to the supper that I cooked as ****. I left for a walk rather than engaging. My daughter made a plate up for me since I hadn't eaten and my husband shoved his finger in her face and screamed at her for doing so. I moved her to a hotel that night. The next day I called a lawyer.
The lawyer that I have is supposed to be cut throat which, I guess, is what I need.
Places here are hard to find, but the one that I have found has a fenced yard, is right by the school bus stop, has enough bedrooms for all of the kids and my son's best friend lives next door.
I hope that I am making the right decision.