Thanks to Timer Lady, the seed was planted in my brain that I need a knight . So when husband called at lunchtime today, I told him he needs to defend me to thank you. That hang up last night really frosted me, don't know why, it's not the first and probably won't be the last, but there needs to be at least some effort to get him to understand that no one (besides his parents) is going to put up with this junk. So husband just told thank you in no uncertain terms that *no* one can treat his wife like that. I just really felt that someone besides me needs to tell thank you that I don't deserve it. I'm feeling warm and protected. thank you is ticked but... oh well. And husband is feeling like a hero.