I found a site that explains my husband abit. I've learned that when he is coming across as manipulative and selfish he is probably having problems with executive functions. He doesn't open the 'money management' folder of his brain at the same time as the 'I'm hungery' folder. Also if the 'money management' folder is open the 'what makes my wife really mad' folder is closed as is the 'what is going to happen in the future' folder. Hence he comes across as selfish and spends all the money. $5 at a time; several times a day. Also, Ross Greene described him very well on pages 248-251. husband also hates socializing, looking people in the eye, and has commented on how everyone else seems to just "get it" and work together while he is stuck on the sidelines trying to figure them out. School was awful for him. We're fighting again. About money, again. I had his bag packed by the front door, and (thanks to ex) have a lawyer on retainer. We're so close to divorce its scary. I'm insisting on his name be taken off the checking account. He has a different account that he has money in. He isn't going to be penniless. But he won't be able to spend so much that we can't pay bills, buy food, or diapers, ect... He is working the hours the bank is open all this week, so he won't be able to go in and do this until next week. I'm expecting that actually getting him in to the bank is going to be another big fight. And this isn't something the bank will do over the phone. He did agree to taking his name off though. Which is alot better then what I thought he'd do. He does love us. He does love me. I feel awful doing this. I've been holding a teddy bear, rocking, and reading this site for hours now. I really don't know what I'd do with out you guys.