I have been holding my ground with my daughter,but as you said it gets much worse! She reamed me out the other day because she claims her boyfriend beat her up and she was trying everything to make me feel like the worst mother alive!! I saw her the day after she said it happened and she had a tank top on with no visible signs of being "beat up". They had a room for her at the Massillon shelter for battered women, but she said she would never go to one of those nasty places and it was awful for me to even suggest it !!! Her and one of her friends lived in my mothers home rent free for over a year. They trashed the place, had every low life possible partying there.They never did one thing to get on their feet. I now live in my mothers home which I have had remodeled and she would come in here and sit on her butt, make excuses why she cant work. I would never get rid of her!!! And then of course she tried to throw her 3 year old into the mix saying for me to forget about her and and her son and now I only have my other 2 kids and my other daughters newborn son. She comes at me with "you would never let her and her son go to a shelter" No. 1 I would never have to worry about that because if anything ever happened my other daughter could and would do everything in her power to support her family. Both my son and other daughter have worked since they were 15 doing something!!! My oldest wants everyone to feel sorry for her and give her all she needs. This has been going on for over 20 years !!!!! I love my 3 year old grandson, but I have had it with her. She says ive never been there for her emotionally, but yet I have provided everything for my grandson, food, clothes, shoes, toys, medicine diapers......anything HE needed I made sure he had it. It just makes me soooo depressed. I have had a battle with depression all my life, but I work full time and take medicine and struggle to keep going!! But each of these bouts of anger beat me down more and more. I just want it to go away !!!!!