hearts and roses
Mind Reader
Yes, he's back. The 21 y/o kid who was bothering difficult child in December, and again in January. Both times it was discovered that although difficult child claims she was scared out of her wits, she had a hard time NOT talking to him. If you recall, he posted her pics on his myspace, called her cell, had his friends calling, and even had a girlfriend - they all, including the stalker, threatened to kick difficult child's @$$ if she didn't respond to him. It was sick. At that time, Jan 30th, we asked him to stop, he ignored us and we finally brought in the police to contact him (easy to get all his info since he's so stupid and it's posted all over his myspace!). So the cops told him to stop and that if he didn't, they had grounds to arrest him. Well, guess who called our house the other night??
difficult child swears that she has not spoken with him, emailed, texted, or provoked him in anyway. The story goes...difficult child's best friend (who also posts her cell number on line) was contacted by the stalker and asked to relay a message to difficult child: "I love her, can't live without her and want to see her - it's not fair that I can't. Give her my new cell________". Then, when he heard no response (OR possibly difficult child did respond and is lying to me about it, not exactly out of the realm of possibilities), he decided to call our house and didn't even bother to block his number. But the 2nd and 3rd time he called, he blocked his number. difficult child says she didn't talk with him when he called - that she was sleeping (It was at 3PM and I was at work and yes, she sleeps everyday after school). So, I called the cop I spoke with on Jan 30th and he and I decided it would be worth it to put a request in for a bench warrant on harrassment.
The bottom line for ME is that this is my home, this is my phone, he is annoying me, causing stress and anxiety - that's harrassment and I just want him to stop calling my house. difficult child said she feels that same, but she's worried something will happen. Which I didn't think of yesterday when I was signing the statement. Our cop was going to make contact with the stalker last night and let him know about this in the hopes he'd turn himself in.
Did I do that right thing? I don't want to ruin the guys life, but he is a psycho and he has stalked other girls. on the other hand, difficult child does have a knack for getting herself mixed up with this kind of crap - am I only delaying another incident with someone else? How much of this is difficult child instigated and how much of it is the stalker just being a stalker? Then, there is the idea of retaliation - should I expect some? Do I have to always be checking if the doors are locked, should difficult child be left home alone, is it safe now? H thinks I did the right thing, the cop thinks so also. I am second guessing. I even asked the cop about difficult child possibly provoking the stalker somehow and he said, "If you are being annoyed or feel threatened by his behavior then you do this regardless if difficult child provoked him; he was asked NOT to call your house and he has". Okay.
I am supposed to go on a conference in 2 weeks for 3 days out of state - I'm petrified that difficult child will pull something or this stalker kid will do something and H and difficult child are already like oil and water, so the fireworks will fly for sure if anything happens. Should I go anyway or should I cancel?
She's failing everything in school, but her job is going great. And then there is all this crap, the drama. Oy.
difficult child swears that she has not spoken with him, emailed, texted, or provoked him in anyway. The story goes...difficult child's best friend (who also posts her cell number on line) was contacted by the stalker and asked to relay a message to difficult child: "I love her, can't live without her and want to see her - it's not fair that I can't. Give her my new cell________". Then, when he heard no response (OR possibly difficult child did respond and is lying to me about it, not exactly out of the realm of possibilities), he decided to call our house and didn't even bother to block his number. But the 2nd and 3rd time he called, he blocked his number. difficult child says she didn't talk with him when he called - that she was sleeping (It was at 3PM and I was at work and yes, she sleeps everyday after school). So, I called the cop I spoke with on Jan 30th and he and I decided it would be worth it to put a request in for a bench warrant on harrassment.
The bottom line for ME is that this is my home, this is my phone, he is annoying me, causing stress and anxiety - that's harrassment and I just want him to stop calling my house. difficult child said she feels that same, but she's worried something will happen. Which I didn't think of yesterday when I was signing the statement. Our cop was going to make contact with the stalker last night and let him know about this in the hopes he'd turn himself in.
Did I do that right thing? I don't want to ruin the guys life, but he is a psycho and he has stalked other girls. on the other hand, difficult child does have a knack for getting herself mixed up with this kind of crap - am I only delaying another incident with someone else? How much of this is difficult child instigated and how much of it is the stalker just being a stalker? Then, there is the idea of retaliation - should I expect some? Do I have to always be checking if the doors are locked, should difficult child be left home alone, is it safe now? H thinks I did the right thing, the cop thinks so also. I am second guessing. I even asked the cop about difficult child possibly provoking the stalker somehow and he said, "If you are being annoyed or feel threatened by his behavior then you do this regardless if difficult child provoked him; he was asked NOT to call your house and he has". Okay.
I am supposed to go on a conference in 2 weeks for 3 days out of state - I'm petrified that difficult child will pull something or this stalker kid will do something and H and difficult child are already like oil and water, so the fireworks will fly for sure if anything happens. Should I go anyway or should I cancel?
She's failing everything in school, but her job is going great. And then there is all this crap, the drama. Oy.
