Hi, and welcome. Sorry you needed to find us... but glad you did. You have come to a safe place. I don't have experience with your situation - others will understand more than me in dealing with this type of child, and thus have more specific advice. What I can offer - is some generic advice... 1) It is always dangerous to get a list of "symptoms" and compare to your own child. We went through that cycle, and I swear there were at least a dozen serious dxes that were "highly likely". In reality? NOT. Where we ended up was... totally different than those major "heart-stopper" dxes that were my first cut at research. 2) Watch out for "awfulizing" or "catastrophizing". Common twist in thinking, but it doesn't help. You are exactly where you are, right now - he is what he is. Anything that has not actually happened yet... should just be "N/A" or "unknown". Don't go making assumptions about the future. 3) Certain dxes are "major". Not sure who did your son's dxes or when, but one that you listed was a major red flag for me: attachment disorder. This alone could account for much of the behavior - if the diagnosis is accurate. There may be other explanations for the behavior. But assuming that the attachment disorder "sticks"... how do you get past it? With a kid who's never been attached, I don't know but there are supposed to be ways. (I've had to re-attach a kid that got lost along the way - so I understand a little about the havoc and chaos that comes as a result...) Can you give us a little more history? Sounds like you have 3 sons - all with the same father? Sounds like the father is not living with you and not very involved... do you have a significant other? who else lives with you? Any family history (on either side) of various disorders and challenges? Others will be along with loads more questions... and advice. Just wanted you to know that you ARE safe here. And nobody here will hand you the "bad parent" label! By the way, good choice to not use real names. You'll see the term difficult child used... that's short-hand for our "difficult child" - or you'll see difficult child 1 and difficult child 2 etc. - to differentiate. Some people have code-names for their kids ... Jumper, Eyeore, Kanga, etc.