ODD is kicking my ass right now. I'm trying to keep on keeping on but it is extremely difficult. If I didn't come to this forum, I would be NUTS!! difficult child missed four days of school last week, went yesterday, and won't go again today. He refuses to do any schoolwork. Today I said to myself: This is crazy. We as parents (meaning me and husband) have to have SOME control here or I don't know how we can go on functioning as a family. So...I went downstairs, sat him down, and told him that there has to be some rules here. I told him he could see his friend this afternoon only if he did a SMALL amount of work and that I would sit and help him. All I wanted him to do was a little English and a few minutes reading. Went into a moderate meltdown. Then...it turned into an issue of not wanting to take a shower and I refuse to compromise on that because of his bathroom habits. The meltdown lasted about an hour and wound up with him on the carpet laughing hysterically. When I asked him what he was laughing about, he said he didn't know. He then took shower. No work has been done. I had a meeting at school yesterday and as long as I can get a note from psychiatrist, I may be able to get homebound services. Or I'm going to have to homeschool. I doubt I have to tell anyone on this forum how I feel about THAT...lol. But then again, he would still have to agree to do work. It is amazing what is going on here...He is running the house and I feel like there's not a damn thing I can do about it. I have an appointment with his new therapist tomorrow for intake and then he is seeing her Monday. All I want right now is some peace but I also am sick of feeling like a parent who can't control their kid. I KNOW that at the root of this is STILL the idea that this is in my control, which blows my mind since this has been going on for 9 years. I must be better than yesterday, because usually I can't put more than two words together on here. It's just so overwhelming.