Okay we had our talk last week, it went better than expected. I KNEW that H would have a hard time with the next part - telling his mom NO to moving in with us and selling her on the idea of Independent/Assisted living. I get how difficult that is. I really do, having been there, done that. I asked him to call his mom last night - to check in with her as well as discuss her future living arrangements. He never said a word to her. She told him that his brother invited her to stay with him for two weeks in October. She told H she doesn't have any desire to spend two weeks with brother in law, but will consider joining him for Thanksgiving. So, what does H do? Does he try to convince his mom to go to visit his brother for two weeks so they can look around? Nope. Does he explain about the misunderstanding, that she will not be living with us? Nope. Does he tell her we're planning on visiting a few of those places? Nope. H tells her that we will join her in Pittsburgh for Thanksgiving! ****. I'm sorry to the moderators for that one. I CANNOT WAIT until next week's therapist appointment - H is coming with me and we are going to have it out. I should call and reserve two spots, not that they do that, but boy would that be nice. Exhausting, but good. I emailed my girlfriend and asked her if I could rent one of the rooms vacated by her college kids already. I am preparing for the worst and hoping for the best. I also want to call his brother and find out if HE said anything about the living arrangements (her idea of moving in with us) to his mom. And I'm going to suggest to H that he call his brother tonight to find out if it's OKAY that we even go for Thanksgiving. brother in law has a beagle mix and I am highly allergic to those dogs so a November winter visit is probably NOT a good idea for me.