nvts
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Well, he did it. difficult child 1 finally pushed me over the edge. Over the last 4 mos. this kid has pushed every button known to man. Meltdowns, hissy fits, running away, throwing stuff, calling 911, calling the local precinct, hitting me while I was holding him, name it.
We have just been given a program called "Waiver". It is for kids that are at risk of going into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or long-term hospitalization. They send someone to your home just about every day of the week, help you get services in place, apply for medicaid, respite for him AND me as well as providing a family resourse center for sibs.
Chucklehead had a meltdown the day the supervisor came to brief us on the program (minor).
Had a meltdown the day our case worker came (major).
Had a meltdown on Tues. when she stopped by just to check in over the long weekend.
I looked into his eyes. The little bugger knew what he was doing. HE WAS DOING IT ON PURPOSE.
I handled it the way I should and got him settled down (after he insisted that she look into a hospitalization) and she left around 8:00 pm. I stayed calm and cold until 10:00 and lost it.
I :
1. used every foul word he used (about me, his sibs, his dad, the dog, my family, the house, his room, etc.). I didn't call him anything - I just threw them in for impact.
2. I told him I knew he did it on purpose and I found that to be repugnant.
3. I told him he's an abuser.
4. I told him that if he raised a hand to me, any of his siblings or damaged ANYTHING in the house again - I'd have him arrested for assault.
5. I told him that if he called the police again, I'd spank him good and that when the police got here and he told him I'd spanked him, I'd claim self-defense and they'd believe me before him because of all the bogus calls he'd made.
6. I told him that if he used foul words toward me or the others I'd slap his mouth.
Well, it's been since Tuesday, and things have evened out. He got kicked out of camp for foul language. I went to pick him up and tried to discuss it with him and he told me to "shut up". I slapped his mouth. He knows I mean business.
I'm tired, but at least we have a little peace!
Beth
We have just been given a program called "Waiver". It is for kids that are at risk of going into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or long-term hospitalization. They send someone to your home just about every day of the week, help you get services in place, apply for medicaid, respite for him AND me as well as providing a family resourse center for sibs.
Chucklehead had a meltdown the day the supervisor came to brief us on the program (minor).
Had a meltdown the day our case worker came (major).
Had a meltdown on Tues. when she stopped by just to check in over the long weekend.
I looked into his eyes. The little bugger knew what he was doing. HE WAS DOING IT ON PURPOSE.
I handled it the way I should and got him settled down (after he insisted that she look into a hospitalization) and she left around 8:00 pm. I stayed calm and cold until 10:00 and lost it.
I :
1. used every foul word he used (about me, his sibs, his dad, the dog, my family, the house, his room, etc.). I didn't call him anything - I just threw them in for impact.
2. I told him I knew he did it on purpose and I found that to be repugnant.
3. I told him he's an abuser.
4. I told him that if he raised a hand to me, any of his siblings or damaged ANYTHING in the house again - I'd have him arrested for assault.
5. I told him that if he called the police again, I'd spank him good and that when the police got here and he told him I'd spanked him, I'd claim self-defense and they'd believe me before him because of all the bogus calls he'd made.
6. I told him that if he used foul words toward me or the others I'd slap his mouth.
Well, it's been since Tuesday, and things have evened out. He got kicked out of camp for foul language. I went to pick him up and tried to discuss it with him and he told me to "shut up". I slapped his mouth. He knows I mean business.
I'm tired, but at least we have a little peace!
Beth