I'm going crazy!!!
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difficult child is in the habit of yelling and it's very verbally abusive. I have tried putting him in his room but he just starts to tear stuff up. Last night i put him on our bed while I was reading posts on this site and told him I would turn cartoons on when he stopped yelling well that did not work so I just let him yell and throw a fit the worse thing he did in my opinion was take the bottom sheet half way off i let this go on for a little while and only speaking to him when he started to mess with other things in the room or would get off the bed. This morning husband made the comment that he did not think difficult child should be allowed to yell at anyone or call anyone those names and he feels that difficult child knows what he is doing because every time I would get up he would start begging not to be whipped and he was also saying he would stop if I would let him take a shower and watch cartoons. I told husband I did not want to whip him because everything I've read shows that this is only good for the short term and makes things worse in the long run. I believe difficult child will eventually figure out that hollering will not get him his way and hopefully he will stop but from what I've read that's kinda how these type of kids communicate when they're mad. I did eventually (once he started to calm down) ask him to come over and sat him in my lap for some TLC and told him that he needed to calm down which of course he responded that he was calm (he was sweating he had gotten so upset), I asked him if he thought he should apologize to me for all of the names he called me and he did without hesitation and without anger which to me equals sincerety (sp?). He then was allowed his shower and to watch cartoons. I just don't know what to tell husband. This is how I use to handle tantrums when he was little and they were expected and difficult child did get over them. Please any advice would be much appreciated