Yup, the dog gets out. lol She's 2 years old, in a well built kennel with a concrete floor and has suddenly figured out how to escape. lol She's met us at the door every day for 2 weeks. The only thing I can think is she's climbing it. Gonna have to hidden camera her cause she's smart about it, too. lol We're tried to hide and watch, but she knows we're still there. lol
Linda, you are entirely right, the list is about me, I can't and won't argue that. I just wish I didn't find it and have attention called to the fact that I'm doing what I said I wouldn't...But husband...he used to be so involved. He used to be the guy that fit the list. He was never great about being the disciplinarian with his daughter, but he at least did some form of parenting. Normally, he does very well with wee. I think he is a bit edgier with wee lately, but even so, I don't think he's dangerously over the top with wee. He was never a real housekeeper, but he didn't leave piles of socks on the floor and milk to curdle on the bookshelf, and would jump up to pitch in if I was doing something...laundry, dishes, whatever... He was never one to take the fam to a movie, but he'd go with when we went skating, or horseback riding, or to the amusement park. Now...pulling teeth is easier. I wish I knew what changed.
And I partly do blame the tv...things improved when it was broken last fall. He seems unable to pull himself away from the tv.
Speaking of which, some folks at work wanted to build a float for a Christmas parade and I offered my barn to do so. A few Saturday mornings, they were out there building away, and if I was not otherwise committed, obviously, I joined in. We had a short meeting a week or so ago to discuss how it went and if we would do it again. Afterwards, a friend who was with us when we got married commented on husband's lack of involvement. She asked what was up with that, the guy I married would have been right out there, cutting up and having fun... he kept "coming out after this show" and "coming out after the next show" and that's the way pretty much every morning goes at our house...here's the plan for the day, he flips on the tv while he eats breakfast, and he is committed til whatever he flipped on is over - usually a 2 hour western. But my friend knows none of this is going on...
easy child knows how to do laundry. I know she's embarrassed, God love her. I so want to get her in to a doctor about this, but I know the he!! I will pay from her mother for doing so...even if husband takes her instead of me. When she was younger, her mom just went off on her if she wet her pants (back at an age that it wasn't so...concerning - you know, like 5 and 6. And she outgrew it.) So I don't think talking to mom is a positive option. And last I knew, her mom didn't do her laundry; 68 year old grandma with an impaired sense of smell does it, so the "problem" doesn't exist for her. So I'm still pondering how to handle it. I think I may recruit the school counselor.
In the meantime, tho, I made sure to point out that I am not angry at her for wetting her pants, only for not dealing with it. Wet pants are wet pants - rinse them in the sink before you stash them. We almost always have wet towels on the bathroom floor by the hamper that someone has missed, warp them in a towel and toss them in the wet towel pile...there are plenty of options that allow her to rinse them out and deal with them without leaving them as they are. Even this past weekend, she changed in the bathroom and carried her clothes to her bag...rinse them out before rolling them up. Not a big deal.
I think daddy getting onto her did make an impact, tho. We'll see. I just hope she doesn't go to school and tell the world he spanked her and we get another call from CPS. If we do, we do. Maybe they'll get involved and help.