Today I had an IEP meeting,this site has prepared me for it. However, here I am frustrated yet some more. First they came in with it already written, which from what I understand here, that's a big no-no. I knew from past IEP meetings that this is how they operate. Everything I asked for was NO. difficult child is to be sent out of room when he refuses to do work or cooperate, for a time-out. School thinks he does this intentionally to get out of work (which it is possible, but I don't think in EVERY case). He gets sent to office, then given detention or suspension. Well, I said if he needs this time can't he be sent to guidance office. No they can use it as a reward. I'm still scratching my head on that one. school district says he doesn't have Learning Disability (LD) any longer, because when they test him he is average. Well, when they test him for these things, they test him individually give him all the time in the world. However, when they give a test to him for reg class tests, they only give him the time alloted the other children. When he is to be given the extra time he needs. Going to see a new psychiatric in June, maybe after he sees him I can fight this IEP, then I have something to go on. Any suggestions? They ask for difficult child to be present, however I didn't want him there because they (school district) had nothing positive to say. That would lower my self esteem- but his I am not going to allow them to ONLY focus on the negative. How do I change that?