BusynMember
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sorry, daughter has a basketball tournament in another city and must stay overnight. We can't go with her due to financial constraints. It will be hard enough to send her alone. We are trying to find a family who can take her.
Hub has a sort of work acquaintance with a daughter on the team. A few weeks ago, I was sitting next to his terrified ex-wife who was afraid he'd try to make her leave the auditorium because he doesn't allow her to see her daughters and doesn't like her to watch their games. Talking to her, she said, in tears, that he used to deal in cocaine, was accused of hit and run, had many DUIs etc. Although it may not be true, the abuse she described rang true to me and who wants to take a chance? Also, I knew this man's sister and she NEVER speaks of him, although she talks freely about her other brother. This ex-wife told me the "Nice" side of the family won't have anything to do with him. I was really shocked. This is a respectable, wealthy business man in town.
This man has offered to take daughter with HIM. I said a big fat no to hub and told him that if that was her only offer, she'd either have to stay home or he'd have to cough up the money out of our Christmas fund and go with her. I am terrified at the thought of her going with this man. Hub argues that he wont' do anything illegal around his daughters, who will also be there. I said WHO KNOWS?????
Daughter thinks Im overprotective and mean. Actually, she would rather go with somebody else, but we don't know if anyone else will offer. Most of the people are taking the entire family, something that is impossible for us to do. (She knew this when we signed her up).
Would you let your kid ride up with a man who has this history on the basis that he is with his daughters so he will be good? His ex-wife ( and he is soon to have another ex-wife) both claim he is violent and abusive. However, I'm sure he DOES put on a good act for other people. I never dreamed of his background until I spoke to a few people. And, of course, they could be lying, but I just don't want to take any chances with my daughter.
Any thoughts on this? (I love husband, but sometimes he is very naive). JMO
Hub has a sort of work acquaintance with a daughter on the team. A few weeks ago, I was sitting next to his terrified ex-wife who was afraid he'd try to make her leave the auditorium because he doesn't allow her to see her daughters and doesn't like her to watch their games. Talking to her, she said, in tears, that he used to deal in cocaine, was accused of hit and run, had many DUIs etc. Although it may not be true, the abuse she described rang true to me and who wants to take a chance? Also, I knew this man's sister and she NEVER speaks of him, although she talks freely about her other brother. This ex-wife told me the "Nice" side of the family won't have anything to do with him. I was really shocked. This is a respectable, wealthy business man in town.
This man has offered to take daughter with HIM. I said a big fat no to hub and told him that if that was her only offer, she'd either have to stay home or he'd have to cough up the money out of our Christmas fund and go with her. I am terrified at the thought of her going with this man. Hub argues that he wont' do anything illegal around his daughters, who will also be there. I said WHO KNOWS?????
Daughter thinks Im overprotective and mean. Actually, she would rather go with somebody else, but we don't know if anyone else will offer. Most of the people are taking the entire family, something that is impossible for us to do. (She knew this when we signed her up).
Would you let your kid ride up with a man who has this history on the basis that he is with his daughters so he will be good? His ex-wife ( and he is soon to have another ex-wife) both claim he is violent and abusive. However, I'm sure he DOES put on a good act for other people. I never dreamed of his background until I spoke to a few people. And, of course, they could be lying, but I just don't want to take any chances with my daughter.
Any thoughts on this? (I love husband, but sometimes he is very naive). JMO
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