So. I have not laid my eyes on difficult child in a month. We mainly communicate via text message (him texting me) I need help here- I need to learn to STOP engaging with this boy. I need to learn that when he says ignorant stuff, that nothing I respond back with is going to change how he perceives things. so to recap- I got the house key from him a week and a half ago so that the house can be listed. So, this is our exchange on Wednesday: Him: so do I get my key back? Me: For what? No need for a key to the house Him: um, becuz that's my texas tech key Him: and who said I got all my stuff? Me: Ok, you want a key to that house, that we don't live in? Him: doesn't matter it's my tech key Me: I didn't see any stuff there of yours. I told you to get all your stuff Him: my big bag and my tv stand is in there Me: That faded tech key is unnecessary to you. Whatever you have I will put on front porch. Him: doesn't matter what you think about how it looks, that's still my key Me: Once I change the locks I will give you the key for a memento. You don't live there. You have no need to be there. Him: doesn't matter all I want is my key, all the rest is irrelevant to me. I quit responding after that. I shouldn't have responded at all. Yesterday: Him: could I possibly make some money? Him: like 30 bucks just to pay for my way to stay somewhere i can work it off or something I never responded. Just now: Him: so can I not make or earn some money? or your not talking to me or what? Me: 1) there isn't anything you can do to "earn" money from me 2) I have no money, and 3) I told you not to ask me for money anymore Him: so you expect me to be able to live somewhere with no help? bet. you and your daughter aint really even gotta *(^& with me if thats the case, I mean yall don't anyway so I guess yall finally got what yall wanted which was for me to move around and not even come around yall or talk to yall or anything but thats a bet. I guess i have no mom or dad, and obviously nobody to turn to when I need help. Appreciate everything you've done for me I guess since I've $%^&ed up I no longer have a family seems like it Me: If you need money get a job. I've done more for you than I should have only for you to lie and steal. These are consequences to choices YOU made. Have a nice day. Him: trying to, and bet. ur not considered my mother anymore, really just the person who gave birth to me. guess I'm screwed on both sides of the family- don't have grandparents, barely have parents and no siblings. why even make the mistake of having me in the first place? with an idiot at that? you couldn't you have had me with somebody worth something? Me: You make the choice on how you choose to live. Regardless of a deadbeat, you were raised to know right from wrong. More often than not, you have chosen wrong. That's on you. You have run off everyone based on YOUR actions. Again, have a nice day. Him: Bet. If something ever happens to me don't act like my mother than. He makes me crazy. Logically, I want to shake him and ask him if he truly believes doing this all by myself all these years was FUN and I did that on PURPOSE? Yes, what every little girl plans when she grows up. And notice, which also makes me crazy, his refusal to acknowledge that this is all due to HIM. Nevermind that on facebook, he posts about smoking personals (evidently when you smoke weed alone) and out and about with his girlfriend. All these tactics used to work. They no longer do. I'm actually ok- just angry.