Let me say like the rest did that I'm happy to have found this site! Reading through alot of these comments has opened my eyes ALOT! Here's my situation.... I have an 7 almost 8 yr old difficult child.. He's always been a difficult child only 2 hours old and was pushing himself away from me in the hospital lol.. He's always been a very fast learner and was walking by 8 months talking by about 1 learned baby gates by 1 1/2 and to crawl out of the crib by 1 1/2. Needless to say he's been busy and kept me busy. He has always been argumentative, and when he started kindergarten and kept getting in trouble I finally set him up with an appointment at the mental health clinic here and we went and seen a p-dr. She met with him and met with me and then put him on adaral(sp?) he was on that for about a week, when one day I walked into his room he shares with easy child and he had his hands around easy child's throat and was trying to stranggle him, I stopped him and asked him why he was doing that and he said he had a headache and easy child wouldn't leave him alone (easy child was 1 1/2 at the time) I put him in time out and we discussed that it was not appropriate to put his hands on easy child and if he was bothering him from then on he needed to come get me or SO to handle easy child. Less than a week later SO walked in and difficult child had a pillow over easy child's head and was pressing down, SO spanked difficult child and put him in time out. He once again stated that easy child was getting on his nerves because he wouldn't be quiet. I called p-dr and explained to her this behavior and she told me to take him off the medication and make an appointment to get him in and we'd try something else. I was forwarded back to her assistant who informed me there was a month wait. I asked to speak with her again and she told me that a month would be fine. So we waited the month and she put him on Strattera. He was on that for about 2 weeks when we noticed that he would become dark very quickly, and by dark I mean he would say things like "I wish I was dead" "I hate myself" stuff like that. So I called the p-dr again and told her about this (afraid he would hurt himself or easy child) she told me to take him off and make an appointment. Found out it would be ANOTHER STINKIN MONTH! I passed took him off the medication and called our family dr. We went into see our family dr. about a week later and he gave us the name of a pediatrician we could see or we could travel an hour away to a differant p-dr. I choose the pediatrician. We went and saw the pediatrician the next day and she met with us for over 2 hours and went over all of the problems we had with him. She listened to our concerns and talked about behaviors. She prescribed intuniv 1mg. once daily, for 2 weeks if we didn't see a differance then to up him to 2 mgs once daily. Come back in 30 days. the first week there was no change in his "normal behaviors" (Talking back, fighting about ANYTHING, temper tantrums, throwing things, yelling,) but the 2nd week he was a completely differant child. he was loving and he smiled. He hadn't had a genuine smile in as long as I could remember. He laughed and played well with easy child. Then the 3rd week came along and boom he was back to normal behaviors. I took him back into pediatrician and she said to give him 1mg in the morning and 2 mgs in the afternoon. So we did that and still no change for 30 days. We went back in and she said sometimes a childs body notices the chemicals and the bodies reaction is to get them out as quick as possibile and she thinks that's what happened with the intuniv, so she changed him to concerta, (I don't remember dosage) but we did that for 30 days and NO change still. This brings us up to now just a week ago she put him on the .1mg clonidine 1/2 tablet in the morning and 1 tablet at night, along with vyvanse 1 capsule in the morning. It's been a week and so far not a major change, he seems quieter SOMETIMES but for the most part still combatitive. I am a single mom now lost SO about 1 1/2 months ago. He was not bio dad to 7 yr old but is to 3 yr old. He did take care of 7 yr old as his own though. He passed away suddenly, I'm surprised the 7 yr old didn't act out more after all that happened. I have had people tell me (not in front of him, nor ever to him) that he's the child you read about as a teen that the parent wakes up and he's standing over the bed with a gun or knife. THAT bothers me that people say that about him. I need help and so far nothing I've done seems to help him.