Scent of Cedar *
Well-Known Member
I wish I had read this article before I became a mother.
The article compares the values taught between families determined to create joyful homes and those determined, from the beginning, to develop strength of character.
The comparison used in this article was sports; was the culture of bravery and wins and losses and self determination a strong sports orientation provides, as opposed to those families (like mine was) where the emphasis was on self esteem.
I wanted my kids never to have that core shame in them that I fight so hard to define and eradicate in my own life.
Huh.
It would follow that any challenging activity, sincerely undertaken, would have the same effect of establishing a family culture of bravery and self efficacy and self value.
Because of the way I grew up, I was determined to create a happy, well-run home for my husband and children. Home was the emphasis; happy was the emphasis. I swear you guys, I worked like a dog to make home a safe, happy place for all of us. You could have blown me right over with a feather when trouble came and I could not find a way to address it.
This article, the value systems espoused in it ~ this is where I may have made a difference for my kids.
When I think about it, detachment parenting is about facing what is real about what the kids are choosing and requiring that the kids see it, too.
It is not too late to do that.
Here is the article.
http://www.parentleadership.com/signs.html
Cedar
The article compares the values taught between families determined to create joyful homes and those determined, from the beginning, to develop strength of character.
The comparison used in this article was sports; was the culture of bravery and wins and losses and self determination a strong sports orientation provides, as opposed to those families (like mine was) where the emphasis was on self esteem.
I wanted my kids never to have that core shame in them that I fight so hard to define and eradicate in my own life.
Huh.
It would follow that any challenging activity, sincerely undertaken, would have the same effect of establishing a family culture of bravery and self efficacy and self value.
Because of the way I grew up, I was determined to create a happy, well-run home for my husband and children. Home was the emphasis; happy was the emphasis. I swear you guys, I worked like a dog to make home a safe, happy place for all of us. You could have blown me right over with a feather when trouble came and I could not find a way to address it.
This article, the value systems espoused in it ~ this is where I may have made a difference for my kids.
When I think about it, detachment parenting is about facing what is real about what the kids are choosing and requiring that the kids see it, too.
It is not too late to do that.
Here is the article.
http://www.parentleadership.com/signs.html
Cedar