allhaileris
Crumbling Family Rock
Hi all! I have not have the chance to get through the huge amount of helpful posts, but hopefully when I have some uninterrupted time at home (ha!) I'll get to do it. Right now I just browse at lunch at work. And yes, I'll find the time soon to add a siggy.
I have a 6 year old daughter who has ODD. We've had her evaluated a couple times and they rulled out ADHD, ADD, etc at that time. I have been using a modified Feingold diet with Eris, mostly no food dye. It drives her crazy! No milk, I keep trying to keep apple juice away but it sneaks in. She had a speech delay, but I think she's pretty much caught up. She's gone through 2.5 years of speech therapy and seems to speak like other kids her age finally, although I know she still has issues getting her thoughts out when she's frustrated. In K she had 90 min of individual therapy a week for speech and fine motor skills. We have her in an alternative school that has mandatory volunteer hours, so last year there was generally 2 parents in the class with the teacher so the ratio was no more than 7:1. I figured a school like that would be best for her behavior issues.
My husband is a SAHD and is having a horrible time dealing with her, especially over summer break. In the past couple months her ODD has gotten worse and she's the queen of talking back, running away, covering her ears, yelling, lying, etc. It's horrible and both of them have said they don't love the other anymore to me. I am fairly positive that my husband's parenting is aggrivating it, but I can't control them when I'm at work. He is too strict with many things, her moving annoys him horribly. It seems all he does it yell at her and I keep telling him that is working against him.
She's a little better with me, but apparently I'm the good cop. One thing that actually has worked for me lately is I told her that a blue dot appears on her forehead when she lies and it goes away as soon as she's done. It helps me let her know I know she's lying withough coming right out and saying she's bad. I just have to tap on my forehead and she knows.
We've been having issues getting her to sleep, started melatonin and it seems to be working well. We didn't give it to her last night and she actually went to bed without a tantrum (even with the no story punishment for her before dinner behavior). The past couple weeks she had gotten into a little habit of 1-2 hour tantrums before bed.
She also seems to go into super whiny/defiant stage around 6pm every night. And she acts worse when husband and I are both home, but acts better when only one of us is there. What's with that?
I know husband keeps her inside too much, but he gets frustrated with her and embarrased in public. I think that getting her out and keeping her active is an important step in keeping her from blowing up. Does anybody have thoughts on this? I see his side but also tell him to move on and deal with it and it'll get better. And she NEVER wears herself out with activity. She can keep going all day long and always has been like that.
Okay, I gotta get back to work. I could write all day about the issues we have with her but these are the big issues right now. I have put a book on hold at the library called "the explosive child" as recommended here somewhere. I hope it helps (I got the DVD too since I know husband won't read it).
Sandy
I have a 6 year old daughter who has ODD. We've had her evaluated a couple times and they rulled out ADHD, ADD, etc at that time. I have been using a modified Feingold diet with Eris, mostly no food dye. It drives her crazy! No milk, I keep trying to keep apple juice away but it sneaks in. She had a speech delay, but I think she's pretty much caught up. She's gone through 2.5 years of speech therapy and seems to speak like other kids her age finally, although I know she still has issues getting her thoughts out when she's frustrated. In K she had 90 min of individual therapy a week for speech and fine motor skills. We have her in an alternative school that has mandatory volunteer hours, so last year there was generally 2 parents in the class with the teacher so the ratio was no more than 7:1. I figured a school like that would be best for her behavior issues.
My husband is a SAHD and is having a horrible time dealing with her, especially over summer break. In the past couple months her ODD has gotten worse and she's the queen of talking back, running away, covering her ears, yelling, lying, etc. It's horrible and both of them have said they don't love the other anymore to me. I am fairly positive that my husband's parenting is aggrivating it, but I can't control them when I'm at work. He is too strict with many things, her moving annoys him horribly. It seems all he does it yell at her and I keep telling him that is working against him.
She's a little better with me, but apparently I'm the good cop. One thing that actually has worked for me lately is I told her that a blue dot appears on her forehead when she lies and it goes away as soon as she's done. It helps me let her know I know she's lying withough coming right out and saying she's bad. I just have to tap on my forehead and she knows.
We've been having issues getting her to sleep, started melatonin and it seems to be working well. We didn't give it to her last night and she actually went to bed without a tantrum (even with the no story punishment for her before dinner behavior). The past couple weeks she had gotten into a little habit of 1-2 hour tantrums before bed.
She also seems to go into super whiny/defiant stage around 6pm every night. And she acts worse when husband and I are both home, but acts better when only one of us is there. What's with that?
I know husband keeps her inside too much, but he gets frustrated with her and embarrased in public. I think that getting her out and keeping her active is an important step in keeping her from blowing up. Does anybody have thoughts on this? I see his side but also tell him to move on and deal with it and it'll get better. And she NEVER wears herself out with activity. She can keep going all day long and always has been like that.
Okay, I gotta get back to work. I could write all day about the issues we have with her but these are the big issues right now. I have put a book on hold at the library called "the explosive child" as recommended here somewhere. I hope it helps (I got the DVD too since I know husband won't read it).
Sandy