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difficult child plays on alot of sports teams. Some play week nite games and others play on weekends. Basically we hardly ever have a quiet weekend and this makes getting together with any family difficult due to game sched.
My nephew is only 1 and I really want to spend more time with him but since my sister works full time during the week, this leaves only weekends to get together. We live about an hr. away which is not a big deal but just dropping by for a few minutes before or after difficult child's games is hard.
I don't always make all of difficult child's games. He always has either husband or myself there but with easy child, it is not always fair to him to make him spend all day at a field including travel time. However, difficult child gets really mad and cranky if we "all" don't come watch him. Of course this is selfish but if I choose to do something else like see my sisters family, he freaks out saying it is not fair that easy child gets to see them and he doesn't. Then I feel guilty and end up going to the game rather than see my nephew.
difficult child plays something year round. Should I feel guilty and bad if once and awhile I want to do something else besides watch him? If easy child gets invited to a party or something, of course he goes but it is just if I want to visit someone or do something difficult child wants to do also like see his cousins that things get crazy here.
I am pretty sure as l should feel free to do something for me even if difficult child is not happy about it. I guess I am just looking for back-up to say, sure...go for it and let difficult child manage. Of course then husband gets left dealing with him being horrible before and after his game but again, this is only once and a while!!
Jan
My nephew is only 1 and I really want to spend more time with him but since my sister works full time during the week, this leaves only weekends to get together. We live about an hr. away which is not a big deal but just dropping by for a few minutes before or after difficult child's games is hard.
I don't always make all of difficult child's games. He always has either husband or myself there but with easy child, it is not always fair to him to make him spend all day at a field including travel time. However, difficult child gets really mad and cranky if we "all" don't come watch him. Of course this is selfish but if I choose to do something else like see my sisters family, he freaks out saying it is not fair that easy child gets to see them and he doesn't. Then I feel guilty and end up going to the game rather than see my nephew.
difficult child plays something year round. Should I feel guilty and bad if once and awhile I want to do something else besides watch him? If easy child gets invited to a party or something, of course he goes but it is just if I want to visit someone or do something difficult child wants to do also like see his cousins that things get crazy here.
I am pretty sure as l should feel free to do something for me even if difficult child is not happy about it. I guess I am just looking for back-up to say, sure...go for it and let difficult child manage. Of course then husband gets left dealing with him being horrible before and after his game but again, this is only once and a while!!
Jan