goin_crazy
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My supposedly ODD ADHD son has left school several times over the last two school years, mostly due to being bullied by students (and occasionally a coach). He did it 4 times without permission by simply walking out the door. We worked out a system where if he thought he couldn't handle the situation, he would call me and say that I forgot he had an appointment, and I would get him. This was just to prevent further on-campus suspension which causes even more trouble for someone who can hardly keep up with regular work and gets extra assignments (which are long) in there. I know it was a bad idea. Now any time something comes up, instead of just dealing with it, he calls me. He has done it three times in the last month. I did get him psychologist visits each time because he needed it but still, it is getting to be too much. Also, if he feels just a little badly or just can't pull himself together long enough to face the day outside the house, he wants to stay home, have me take off work and either take him to the psychologist or the doctor. Each time it is a minimum of three days. Then he cannot seem to finish his makeup work or even get all of it. His teachers have stopped communicating with me because they are tired of dealing with him. When he does any work at all, he makes A's. I know he is bored. He tested above average on IQ and was angry and resentful while testing part of the time and depressed part of the time, so he really didn't even try. Some of the time he tested at the end of 12th grade-level and other times on 4th grade level. We have talked until we are blue in the face and it does not sink in. I have no idea why he gets picked on except that middle-school boys are mean. They tell him he is small and has acne and that everyone hates him. I understand why he hates school. I had similar experiences but I had no choice and I am not as smart as he is. I plan to homeschool next year even though I work full-time because he has 2 grandmothers who will watch over him for the online part he does before I get home. In the meantime, We have to get him through 9 more school days and I don't think I can make it! Any ideas? And NO there is nothing that motivates him. Not promising him the world to just do the minimum and get through it nor punishing him by taking away the "things" he cares so much about. Please help someone!!!