Yesterday, without going into all details, difficult child got upset with me over one of my rules and said he was coming to get his stuff and moving out. He and his best friend came and got his clothes and toiletries. He said he was really frustrated, having feelings about the issues with his bio dad and was at his breaking point and just wasn't happy. Happily there were no altercations. He has moved in with best friend and his parents. I know the friend, his Dad and have spoken with his Mom on the phone. They are good people. I spoke to difficult child last night and told him I have no problem with his moving out that I just really wished it hadn't been done in anger and that he was welcome to come back. I told him I hoped he would come by and visit with me sometimes. He said, "Mom, its not like Im never gonna see you again, its not like that-people just move on". He told me that he is sharing his feelings about his dad with his friend and friends parents so at least he is talking to someone-he refuses professional help. He said the Dad said he could stay there as long as he likes and that he did not tell him he had to pay them but he was going to pay them something. He said he wasn't going to mess up his job and that he just wanted to get out. While my Momy heart is sad that he has moved outta my house and into another Mom's house, I am trying to be positive. This is a decision he made on his own and maybe will help him feel more confident and independent. Like husband says, he has to leave sometime and this is baby steps toward his adulthood and that he is quite sure that if he has a problem, I will be the one he calls. husband also truthfully said that while he didn't want it to happen the way it did, he is relieved as it will afford us some peace and quiet since we have been raising a rebellious teen since we married. difficult child is supposed to contact me in a day or so and come by so that husband can sign over his car to him ( his incentive for finishing school) and we can talk more then. His friend saw that I was upset yesterday and he hugged me several times and told me that he was there for difficult child and me as well-sweet. Anyway, good thoughts and prayers needed that this will only help difficult child in his quest for adulthood and independence.