Wow. I did not know this son. If I had, what he did would not have surprised me so much when he took off...it is helpful to get more closure even at this late date. After Princess disclosed the marriage proposal, I talked to Bart. He was shocked by the story but laughed. Then he said robot describes Goneboy perfecyly and proceded to tell me how Goneboy used to climb on the roof out his window into Barts room and steal from him. Bart would tell me and his dad, then Goneboy would turn it around in his calm way and say it was the other way around. Bart was loud and often rude. Goneboy acted like a perfect little gentleman. Both his father and I shamefully almost always believed Goneboy. No wonder Bart was such an angry teen. And young man. But he actually never brings it up and has totally forgiven both of us. Goneboy was a fooler. Never once did he get in trouble at school. He was brilliant in school. He never drank or took drugs and still does not. He doesnt even cuss or let anyone cuss in his home. He is a millionaire with his own business and a workaholic.He is a strict Christian, very involved in the church. He is also an extreme control freak and lacking in emotion. I am sure he only still talks to ex, on his terms only, because he wants the nice inheritance he will get by being in his life. But he doesnt help ex like Princess does. He was bonechilling coldhearted when he agreed to meet me in his church the one time I saw him in the past fifteen years. He was calm, demeaning and frozen and lied to weeping wife about me. Attachment disordered people tend to be great actors and play up to those who can benefit them. I hope he loves his wife and kids. For the forst time, I see why he left. I had no money to offer him. Thats really the gist of it. I shamed him. Money is status, achievement and worth to him. He has money but wants more. He has always loved money and expensive toys since very young. He looked up to his rich friends and made it clear he wished we had more. At that time, ex was not yet rich. I am proud he acheived, not so proud of his heart...oh well.