Today after school difficult child apparently saw some friends leave on their bike to go somewhere. He asked if he could go but since they were already off the block and I had no idea where they were going, I said no. ( our rule is that you can ride your bike around the block or to the park,etc.. if you use the buddy system) I did not want to allow him to try and catch up with the kids because with difficult child, if you give an inch, he takes a mile. So I felt if I gave in and let him set off on his own to find them, he would at a later date throw that in my face and say "you let me go by myself last time" difficult child became enraged at this and because at the same time his little brother had tried to ask him about borrowing something, difficult child started to harrass the little guy and lay hands on him. Of course difficult child is denying touching him saying he is just coming close to hitting him. difficult child would not leave brother alone so I stepped to physically seperate him away and difficult child started shoving me around, kicking, slapping, etc.. At 10 yrs old, difficult child is my ht. and out weighs me by about 10 or more lbs. I took my younger one and went into the car and sat there for a while. When I went back in the house, difficult child was doing homework and calmly asked me to help him! I really wanted to call the police when he was abusing me but I was afraid to. If you have called police on difficult child, what happened? Will they take him away or just talk to him and sort of scare him? I finally got an appointment. with a neuropsychologist. but now have to wait to see if ins. will cover it. If not, I don't know if we can afford it! I do not even know how to get difficult child to go as he has adamently stated he needs no help, he has no problem and that we (his parents and brother) are the problem because we annoy him, won't leave him alone, and don't let him do what ever he wants. He looked me straight in the eye the other day and said that I and his Dad were the ones who need help, not him. Yet after major blow ups where he totally loses it, he later cries and apologizes that he can't help himself from getting so angry and wished this family could all get along and have fun! Yeah, so do I. Anyway, thanks for listening.