BloodiedButUnbowed
Well-Known Member
I have not posted in quite a while and thought I would provide an update.
Wife and I are working on things. Some days are good, some days less so. The stress of YS' situation - the fact that he attempted suicide, that it nearly succeeded, and that none of us can escape the fallout - overwhelms all else at the present time.
YS continues his recovery and is presently focusing on physical rehab. We were informed that he will likely be discharged home in a couple of weeks with a recommendation for a partial hospitalization program to address the suicide attempt. Insurance says now that we are two months removed from the attempt, they will not pay for inpatient psychiatric. Not that three to seven days on an inpatient unit would be much better than a month or two of partial hospitalization. At the moment he is not suicidal. He is not a safety risk.
YS is making great progress cognitively, he is now almost back to where he was before this tragedy. He has some memory issues but these are slowly improving as well.
We are blessed by this outcome and I am always grateful even in the midst of the chaos.
Meanwhile things with DS are once again growing concerning. He is jobless and truant from online school. He looks disheveled. He is avoiding visiting YS in the hospital. When he does visit they barely interact. This weekend my wife noticed that DS has cigarette burns on his palms. She asked about them and he made an excuse about having fallen. I wasn't there that day, but my wife is 100% sure these were cigarette burns.
We were supposed to have DS over for a visit the next day. He refused to respond to our texts confirming the visit. In the end he didn't show up, and didn't text or call.
We know that YS has cited DS' volatility and violence as one of the reasons for his attempt. We know that YS is keeping secrets about DS. We think they need to be separated for YS' sake and frankly, his safety. We are hoping that YS will choose to live with, or at least spend a lot of time with, us. Their father would never consent to this and doesn't believe DS has a problem. Given DS' history of violent behavior when confronted, his father is also likely concerned that DS would lash out and cause serious damage if he addressed it.
Wife is considering legal action to protect both boys and force their father to address DS' mental health and truancy. My personal opinion is that DS is going to end up in jail or dead barring a major change in his lifestyle. We have no idea what he is up to, but we know it isn't healthy and it probably isn't legal. He won't talk to us unless he wants something. He is beyond our (wife's and my) reach at this point.
More updates as I have them. Thinking of you all.
Wife and I are working on things. Some days are good, some days less so. The stress of YS' situation - the fact that he attempted suicide, that it nearly succeeded, and that none of us can escape the fallout - overwhelms all else at the present time.
YS continues his recovery and is presently focusing on physical rehab. We were informed that he will likely be discharged home in a couple of weeks with a recommendation for a partial hospitalization program to address the suicide attempt. Insurance says now that we are two months removed from the attempt, they will not pay for inpatient psychiatric. Not that three to seven days on an inpatient unit would be much better than a month or two of partial hospitalization. At the moment he is not suicidal. He is not a safety risk.
YS is making great progress cognitively, he is now almost back to where he was before this tragedy. He has some memory issues but these are slowly improving as well.
We are blessed by this outcome and I am always grateful even in the midst of the chaos.
Meanwhile things with DS are once again growing concerning. He is jobless and truant from online school. He looks disheveled. He is avoiding visiting YS in the hospital. When he does visit they barely interact. This weekend my wife noticed that DS has cigarette burns on his palms. She asked about them and he made an excuse about having fallen. I wasn't there that day, but my wife is 100% sure these were cigarette burns.
We were supposed to have DS over for a visit the next day. He refused to respond to our texts confirming the visit. In the end he didn't show up, and didn't text or call.
We know that YS has cited DS' volatility and violence as one of the reasons for his attempt. We know that YS is keeping secrets about DS. We think they need to be separated for YS' sake and frankly, his safety. We are hoping that YS will choose to live with, or at least spend a lot of time with, us. Their father would never consent to this and doesn't believe DS has a problem. Given DS' history of violent behavior when confronted, his father is also likely concerned that DS would lash out and cause serious damage if he addressed it.
Wife is considering legal action to protect both boys and force their father to address DS' mental health and truancy. My personal opinion is that DS is going to end up in jail or dead barring a major change in his lifestyle. We have no idea what he is up to, but we know it isn't healthy and it probably isn't legal. He won't talk to us unless he wants something. He is beyond our (wife's and my) reach at this point.
More updates as I have them. Thinking of you all.