So here's my issue: Two months ago Tay got engaged and she lied about the circumstances. There was no reason to lie. For some reason she felt the need to keep it going until recently when someone asked her how her fiance proposed in front of me. The real story came out. The fiance asked her while on a fancy date, then asked her dads permission the next day. She? or He? didn't want us to know he asked her before us so she lied. I knew she lied when she told us the first time. Who goes on a date to the most expensive restaraunt in a 50 mile radius then gets engaged in a driveway the next day? LOL We could have cared less if he asked our permission. (I did think it was nice though. kinda sweet). The wedding is in two months. Now we find out she is married already. They tied the knot around a two weeks ago. They once again didn't want us to know. husband found out when he went online to update his records after moving to a new position in the military. Amazingly enough Tay's last name was her fiances last name. I had to explain to husband that there are only two ways to change your name in the military. Legal name change or marriage. It also explained why her fiance had to move out of the barracks on short notice. When husband asked her about it she begged him not to tell the fiance he knew because the fiance was worried husband would be mad. Once again there was no reason to lie. We could care less. I'm being petty because I am irritated! Seriously we aren't traditional or old school. The fiance has been practically living with us for months now. There was no reason to lie. I've been biting my tongue and kissing her butt just to get through the wedding. There is no drama going on as far as she is concerned. I'm also being petty because I don't appreciate my sister in law lying to me twice already. I know they are simple little things but it's the point. WHY LIE? We don't care about any of the stuff. Plus now I question all the things they say because the little white lies. I am doing my best to be supportive of the planning and NOT cross the line. Basically, I show up say what she needs to hear and possibly utter a recommendation if I feel she is open to it. Lord forbid I make a real suggestion or I actually say what I think. It sucks! I wan't to be that loving mother that assists her but I am pretty positive if I actually tried to behave that way it would be catastrophic.