Hello All--
difficult child does not care to do homework...and because she is very bright, she can still do well on tests and things without studying...so she does not place any importance at all on completing assignments.
Last week, she had an eleven page science report due. husband and I had been reminding and reminding and nagging and nagging--but naturally, difficult child leaves the whole thing for the night before. She turned it in and reports that she received a score of 100%.
That's great! (if it's true...)
Today, I receive a call from her English teacher that so far this quarter, difficult child has turned in NONE of her homework and has earned a series of zeroes that will be seriously impacting her grade. Tomorrow is the last day to make one of these up...so I got the assignment and planned on talking to difficult child when she arrived home.
I asked her if she was all caught up on all of her work. difficult child beamed at me and said Yes! She's doing really well in all of her classes. I told her that I was very glad to hear that, but her teacher called to let her know that she has only one day left to make up the last missing assignment.
difficult child looked confused and said she was all caught up (nobody told her she had missing work, she doesn't remember getting homework, seemed totally unfamiliar with the assignment I read to her from my telephone note, etc etc), and declared that there must be some mistake because she currently has a B in that class.
I'm pretty confident that difficult child is lying--but at this point it is the teacher's word vs hers...because I have no proof of anything either way.
How would you handle this? I am thinking not to make a big deal out of it and let the natural consequence of possibly failing English be the lesson.
Or, am I being irresponsible for not setting up more immediate consequences here at home for not having homework done? (And without daily proof of all the assignments, how would I check up on that each day?).
What do you think?
--DaisyF
difficult child does not care to do homework...and because she is very bright, she can still do well on tests and things without studying...so she does not place any importance at all on completing assignments.
Last week, she had an eleven page science report due. husband and I had been reminding and reminding and nagging and nagging--but naturally, difficult child leaves the whole thing for the night before. She turned it in and reports that she received a score of 100%.
That's great! (if it's true...)
Today, I receive a call from her English teacher that so far this quarter, difficult child has turned in NONE of her homework and has earned a series of zeroes that will be seriously impacting her grade. Tomorrow is the last day to make one of these up...so I got the assignment and planned on talking to difficult child when she arrived home.
I asked her if she was all caught up on all of her work. difficult child beamed at me and said Yes! She's doing really well in all of her classes. I told her that I was very glad to hear that, but her teacher called to let her know that she has only one day left to make up the last missing assignment.
difficult child looked confused and said she was all caught up (nobody told her she had missing work, she doesn't remember getting homework, seemed totally unfamiliar with the assignment I read to her from my telephone note, etc etc), and declared that there must be some mistake because she currently has a B in that class.
I'm pretty confident that difficult child is lying--but at this point it is the teacher's word vs hers...because I have no proof of anything either way.
How would you handle this? I am thinking not to make a big deal out of it and let the natural consequence of possibly failing English be the lesson.
Or, am I being irresponsible for not setting up more immediate consequences here at home for not having homework done? (And without daily proof of all the assignments, how would I check up on that each day?).
What do you think?
--DaisyF
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