Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you Nancy and all that follow...I am so happy to hear that you and your daughter are getting along so well these days. I too, hope that she will continue to make the necessary changes in her life that are needed to keep moving forward.
Our Christmas time has been filled with many party's! Had a company party last Tuesday with husband. A distant family Party Saturday night, birthday party for difficult child's 5 yr old Julie on Sunday and Monday night celebrated early Christmas with young difficult child, his wife, the grandkids, easy child and her boyfriend, and my mom. Yesterday was my birthday...so of course I went to the casino. Left with $300 and came home with a $1000.
But not all things are cheery and bright here. daughter in law is out of town at her grandmother's with the grandkids now. Young difficult child is staying with his buddy at buddy's grandmother's home down the road from my mom.
daughter in law just sent me this text a short while ago...
" It would be super nice of you to invite your son to Christmas. He's right down the road from your mom's place if she could scoop him up? He will be alone. I know you surely got presents for easy child and absolutely nothing for your son. My mom and grandma both got him a lil something but he won't get it until I get back. Bahumbug"
So I texted daughter in law back and this is what I said...
" daughter in law...We did not get easy child any Christmas presents. Ask her. We are not responsible for difficult child's misery. We love him always and wrestle daily with what helps or hurts difficult child. When he is taking care of himself and HIS family then we will openely embrace the changes. We love all of you and want to see you all moving forward in life. difficult child is not a baby...he is a Man and needs to be treated that way."
So...guilt trips. Nice huh. LOL I thought Christmas was about gifts the heart? We did buy all of the grandchildren $500 worth of toys that were so fun for husband and I to shop! We also gave my mom and husband's dad/stepmom a present as well as giving daughter in law's mother $150...but just sad that I feel like I have to explain myself. by the way, easy child got all of us presents! She is very thoughtful yet poor at this stage in life too.
But all in all it has been a joyous time. husband and I are so glad we stopped our drinking long ago as husband says, " These days we get invited back to party's next year!" lol
Meanwhile I think my mom is going to make arrangements with easy child to pick up young difficult child tomorrow. WE are not. I will not be guilted to make life better for young difficult child when he does not even think twice about messing up a holiday for his children.
Anyway, I do want you all to know that I read almost everything I can from the boards on a fairly regular basis and keep your difficult child's in my heart amd often my prayers.
Right now, husband is getting a massage in the living room by easy child while listening to christmas carols off the TV/stereo. Tonight I may convince husband to run me back up to the casino to try it out again, lol. And tomorrow is Christmas dinner at my mom's. Young difficult child may be there. Hoping it is a pleasant and uneventful time.
Love you all...