"You Can't Just Snap Out of It" by J. Douglas Bremner, M.D. Professor of Psychiatry and Radiology in Atlanta GA, researcher and physician If you or any loved one was abused in any way, including emotionally to a degree that it interrupts your functioning, this book is the best book ever. It explains how the brain actually changes if there is trauma and how a one time trauma is not as harmful to the brain as continuing trauma and it has many doable and helpful ways to heal. It explains sudden anger. It explains an inability to find healthy relationships. It explains why you re prone to depression, anxiety, sadness, depression It explains. When I saw my new psychologist who told me I had PTSD (all the signs and symptoms) she told me that this is why I have always had trouble in certain areas in life. Also, PTSD and interestingly the borderline behaviors that my Things believe I have are closely related. The symptoms are similar and they are caused by, most commonly, your abusive parent(s). In my case I know only one affected me and I will have to revisit the traumas, many which I just have nuggets of because I want to get even more better than I already have. A trauma can be forgotten. In my case it is more like they are elusive. I see the contorted face, I hear some of the words, I see my tears, I am a little girl or a young adult. In every dream my mother is in, I am a child again, and she is screaming at me and telling me how "stupid" I am. I'm stuck there at times, I guess. And those pedal pushers and her fattish legs. And nobody is there to rescue me as I try to get away, just like in the real world long, long ago. I will have to relive it to dump it. Bummer, but I'd like to dump it once and for all. The later hurts may have been the worst ones of all, but I will do it because I feel better, tons better, already. I know it will help me and nobody can fix this except me. Seeing the new psychologist, who specializes in anxiety, borderline, PTSD, and a host of other things, got me to stop thinking about my two siblings lack of validation and focus on myself and how I can get rid of them (right now they aer traumas) that are affecting my life.I am sarting to use all the tools I have thus far learned to destress. What good are tools if you don't use them? Included are deep breathing, imagery, mindful meditation and checking in to make sure my muscle groups are loose. It feels great. Exercising is something I have always done. The book also recommends not "No contact" (I think that is a cruel new fad that will die sooner rather than later), but to detach from things that trigger your trauma, whether it's a person or a thing. That MAY include no contact, I guess, but at least it doesn't state the words, as if a person you are suddenly never speaking to again is no longer human to you. I hope some of you get the book from Amazon and enjoy it and learn from it. When we talk about our dysfunctional families, we are really discussing our trauma. And some of us have had other traumas as well and all this wears on our brains and health. Medication is also sometimes necessary. Anyhow...anyone want to talk about trauma, I'm game. If not, hope you check out the book Have a peaceful, serene night!!!