Hi there I am new to this forum and seriously at the end of my rope. My husband and I are recently separated, and my son is and has been a very difficult child and it is not getting any easier or better. His sophomore year of high school he was kicked out of a very good Catholic High School 6 weeks before school got out for smoking weed before school and having paraphernalia on campus, so he had to complete last 6 weeks of school at a public school. The beginning of his junior year (in the new public school) he was smoking in his room all the time. I would bust him throw it our argue and fight a constant battle. I finally got my husband involved and he talked to our son and told him that he was giving him a drug test and searching his room. If he had anything related to drugs he better just come clean with it, or he was calling the cops if he found anything. Our son swore up and down there were no drugs in his room and no paraphernalia. The drug test only showed THC, however when my husband searched the room there was pot, scale, baggies, lighters, papers and a lot of money....My heart sank because I knew the cops were getting a call, and they were. They did not arrest our son but did warn him and had a very long talk. Fast forwarding a couple months my sons name came up with selling weed to a middle school kid, and they took him into detention center and he had to complete a 3 week drug program. Well the bullheaded pot smoker was not compliant so the 3 weeks turned into a 6 month program. He did complete that but not honestly. He figured out a way to cheat the system through research and friends. Now this is a child with a 3.4 GPA in school. Crazy and very frustrating........He just graduated High School (thank God) but continues to smoke A LOT of weed day and night, and now he is drinking beer and alcohol, and I have seen a couple packs of cigarettes recently. He has a constant cough, and wont go to rehab or counseling. I was a big pot head before I had kids, but I NEVER got in trouble with the law or disrespected my parents with smoking or keeping it in there home. I would appreciate some real solutions to this dilemma, and not harp on me about all the mistakes I have made. This is my oldest child of 2 and I have not done anything different with my second one yet she seems to be on the right track at 15. Forcing him into rehab from what I have seen with friends will only lead him to relapse and possibly become worse. HELP!!!!